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Ems
Ladies if you saw your ex from distance, but a they didn’t see you – would you message them to tell them that you saw, especially if you want to get back together with them?
My ex and I broke something stupid, mainly my fault but I wanted him to understand me he didn’t and things got out of hand where he hasn’t spoke to me since Wednesday.
The conversation between us wasn’t going nowhere so I don’t actually blame him not messaging me.
He didn’t want to broke up.
And he apologised a lot of time and he did try to make it better at the first week but second week he kinda gave up.Would this break the ice.
If I say – hey just saw you, as I was passing by coming from x – it was good to see you x”
Any other suggestions would be appreciated
Thanks ladies
Raven
I remember you posting, but don’t remember the specifics…
Why did you break up?
Ems
Yeah I posted about my situation few weeks ago I think.
It was over misunderstanding about my guy friend and He got angry about it.
Can you please answer the question – I rather not go back to that explaining all over again
Raven
Oh!
This is about your BF getting jealous over a male friend who helped you in your house & You not communicating or communicating poorly around it…Honestly, until you work on your communication skills & he works on his jealousy- The relationship is again doomed to lather, rinse & repeat…
However, if you want to contact him, just call him & talk… You don’t need a BS reason to text…
Ems
Since I was not getting any replies – I messaged- thought it would be opportunity to open the door for us talking again but he hasn’t replied so it looks like he is done with me finally. :(
Lane
No I wouldn’t. If you wanted to talk you should have approached him then. To use a lame text to say you saw him but didn’t say hi would immediately put him on notice you are either playing games or in the worst case scenario, stalking him.
Stay no contact and figure out why you need to lie or deceive a boyfriend. If you knew your BF has an issue with a certain person then you don’t invite him over to fix your closet behind his back. Respect is one of the top needs of a man, so when you disrespect them, especially through deception, it can cut them pretty deep to the point they lose all respect, faith, trust, and/or love they had for you. This act affected him in a deep way and whether you, I, or others think or feel it might be extreme, its his feelings on the issues that count and now you have to live with the penalty or price of doing it the way you did.
If you’ve said sorry or apologized and he’s still not willing to work it out, I would say its over in his mind and so any attempts at contact won’t work until he’s ready, willing, and able to work it out but just so you know some men have white elephant syndrome and it maybe something he uses as a weapon to remind you that you need him more than he needs you.
Ems
It’s too late now I’ve send it, let him think whatever he wants.
Ems
He messaged back, he said : he would’ve liked to see me too”
Raven
Did he try & make more conversation?
Ems
I didn’t say anything after he messaged that.
And he didn’t say anything after – I don’t know what else to say.
I was thinking asking if he wanted meet up? But I’m not sure that be good idea.
Raven
What do you hope to accomplish?
Ems
I want to get back with him
Raven
Why don’t you just call him?
Dangerouse
Talk about poor communication skills… you want him back but you can’t even place a phone call?
Kim
Why are you playing games? If you wanted to speak to him you should’ve done it when you saw him. If you want to speak to him give him a call and stop playing games like a child. Are you after a long term relationship with him? Men don’t like drama in the long term. Who has time for that? If you want to get back together with him give him a call and talk to him, otherwise move on with your life.
Ems
Kim I would have said something If we came to face to face
I was on the bus and he was at work so obviously I am not going to go to his work place.
redcurleysue
Look take the bull by the horns and tell him you want to meet. That is what you want right?
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