Would you want to know?

Yes… What is the backstory regarding your question?

There are several thoughts about this…

Personally, I would want to know & have been in this situation- sort of. I knew there was something fishy going on & then found out myself.

Others are, it’s nonya…

AngieBaby,

No need detective work, I have screenshots of him telling me he’s single.

Yep that’s what I’m thinking, I know many women would choose not to believe despite provided solid evidence, and blame other women instead. There’s a reason why cheating men are still thriving.

Some women do not care how much proof you have. If it makes you feel better tell her, send proof and then never interact with any of them again. Including the woman. Ask yourself, why would you want that drama in your life? Thank the universe for allowing you to find out early on so you didn’t get attached and can move on to a better, healthier relationship with a man who isn’t a cheating scumbag.

I know her Instagram. Her profile picture was them holding hands, that’s how I found out.

Thanks ladies for the replies.

Decided not gonna do it because:

1) many women would choose to blame the wrong person. *insert don’t-touch-my-garbage meme*

2) he might be very good at twisting the story and make himself a victim.

Good choice.

I once saw a good friend’s longtime boyfriend out in a bar with another woman, holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc. Full on romantic contact, no mistaking it. He didn’t see me, I was on the other side of the room and I was able to get out without him knowing I was there. I agonized over whether to tell my friend and finally decided I should because I’d want to know if the tables were turned and I wanted to be a loyal, supportive friend. Wrong decision. She made excuses for him and said I must have been mistaken or misinterpreted what I saw. She checked with him, he lied and she stopped being friends with me over it. Couple of months later I heard through mutual friends she caught him red-handed and dumped him. But she never came back to be friends with me again.

The point is, you dropped him like a hot potato when you found out he was in a relationship. That was the right thing to do, and that’s all you’re responsible for, your choices and behaviors.

Since he’s out trolling for women and claiming he’s single, he’ll get sloppy and make some mistakes that will give away what he’s doing at some point, for sure. The question will be whether she’s willing to see it and stand up for herself or if she’d rather turn a blind eye to stay in the relationship.

Great conclusion ladies. I totally agree with you and can share my own story.

I once had a crush on someone who was married. Naturally I had no intention of acting on it, but he started making very inappropriate moves once he sussed out I liked him.

When I found out he’d actually been having real affairs with other women I was shocked. I actually asked him what his wife would think if she knew what he was like. It was an online conversation and there was no other context in that particular conversation preceding my question giving away what I was talking about. He said “I don’t know what you’re talking about”.

I said, ok I thought that’s what you’d say. And left it at that.

Problem solved you’d think.

Nope, next time I see him, I come across his wife first. She’d been waiting for me and starts laying into my (verbally). Apparently she was present during the online conversation, and wanted to know what was going on between me and her husband.

It was a horrible situation. I’d not even done anything wrong and had actually had her at the forefront of my mind the whole time.

I ended up leaving the organisations we were all a part of because I was done with both of them. I found out later he’d spread rumours about me having a history of false allegations against men.

20 years later, she’s still with him I believe.

I feel sad for her now actually writing this. I might pray for her tonight. That’s as far as I’ll ever get involved in anyone else’s rubbish ever again.