Why did he not contact me after all of this?


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    Bertha

    I went on a second date with a dude, I asked him out – but he was the one who said he wants to meet also.
    We went mini golfing, it was very fun, laughed, he picked me up from my home and so on. He is a very social guy indeed. (I’ve just noticed that he texts me like every day a bit or every other days, and doesn’t chat “for fun” ie tries to get to know me or plan something)

    He had even bought a gift to me earlier which he gave during the date. His body language was open and he seemed enjoying my company (smiling, flexing his muscles, very helpful, really tried to get to know me).

    After the activity we started driving home. He mentioned we shouldn’t drop me off yet, and instead he’ll show me where he works. So we drove around another +10 minutes or so.

    When he dropped me off, he basically said “so let’s see then about later” (meaning the next date?). It was kinda ambiguous. Last time he said clearly on the first date if I wanted to meet again.

    Maybe I over analyze things? But he hasn’t contacted me for 2 days now. I still have hope that he will, because it’s not the first time he doesn’t contact every day, but I’m kinda scared cause even though he works long Days, he doesn’t text.

    Would he suggest driving around to prolong the date if he didn’t like me? What do you guys think about this situation?

    #787805 Reply
    Tallspicy

    No one can tell you what he is thinking. But you are over invested if you care what a man does at the second date. Until a man is your boyfriend best to have a 0 f*s policy of not caring. Just stop asking him out or initiating. Let him lead and be receptive and responsive. If after 8 weeks he is not locking it down, he is not into you.

    #787806 Reply
    Tallspicy

    And men can do and say a lot on the date and mean it in the moment. If he has not called or texted in two days, but it is the weekend and the world is weird, just wait and see. After a week, assume over.

    #787820 Reply
    T from NY

    What Tallspicy said all day long

    And when men say sweet things to you on dates, they mean it a lot of the time, but live in the present and if they don’t miss you or want to pursue you they just stop initiating.

    It’s not a great sign that 2 days has passed. Shows he’s not super invested in you or maybe just not wanting to be in a relationship. Make up your mind your boundaries and be true to yourself FIRST. Personally for me, I would lose serious interest in a guy who hadn’t contacted me in 2+ days. But if he sets up another date IF he reaches out than okay. If just chit chat – he’s a time waster. Live for you. Forget him right this moment unless he pops up again.

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