What is his endgoal here? Need a wake up call

hi all, first of all: i haven’t been on here for AWHILE so just wanted to say that I posted in here a handful of times before, and lately i have not been dating or anything as i have been basically working my booty off post college. i work for a major tv/ news thing and all my weekends i work overnights so my social and dating life has been incredibly non-existent for almost a year now. funnily enough during this break, i have had more guys from my past that have hit me up than ever before. even some of them asking for job recommendations when they disrespected me LOL. like the AUDACITY some of these men have!

In 2018, I had an incredibly great college one night stand. It was very much just sex. But the physical chemistry was so intense, I always have thought about it since then…it was THAT good. Let’s call him “J” for easier context to type. J and I met in July of 2018, hung out twice (we went to the same college) and then I found out after we hooked up weeks later he had a girlfriend the entire time and he removed me off of all social media. So I understood – he was a douche. Onto the next. We would casually run into each other on campus and completely ignore one another and even though the sex was that good, I felt incredibly used and thrown out especially since he felt the need to remove me off of everything afterwards.

Fast forward to November of 2021, he tries DMing me on instagram, I am curious as to what he wants (especially since he unblocked me after years?) and we chat. I find out he is single,him and his gf were actually on a break during that time we hookedup, we exchange numbers and I do it because I want him to fess up to what he actually wants, hence why I am playing along. Its also been almost four years, and for a guy to remember a girl he had sex with once four years ago just well, peaked my interest. I always thought about him on and off in a nostalgic way, as it was purely a fun night and my relationships, flings after him never could recreate that type of physical chemistry I had with J, if I am being honest.

Since November, he texts me hinting at getting together, I was at first vague, but then was receptive to it as I was horny and figured why not have some fun – (I did/do NOT like him in a romantic way). He proceeded to not reply to my text for 3 weeks, barely does the bare minimum of asking me even how I am doing, like its all very low effort. He does this two more times, and he unfollows me AGAIN on social media by January of 2022. Then I delete his number, as 3 times every 2 months now he would ask me to get together then I would basically say yes, and he would just stop replying and not mention a time or place. Finally I had enough, and before yesterday, I haven’t heard from him since end of February.

He texted me out of the blue yesterday that he is trying to “connect” with more of our college alumni, which confuses me, and finally comes clean that he just wants to hookup again after I try to pull it out of him since I am sick of this game; he first says to me that he “isn’t trying to throw any moves anymore” and just “wants someone to explore the city with” then two texts later he says how “its hard not to remember how we f*cked four times in one night lol” so i am even more like ????? & continues to say that four years ago i “rocked his world”. I haven’t had sex or a date in a year, and all I have been doing is working from home and with my intense schedule, I do deserve some fun. So I agreed to getting together. And NADA. NOTHING. Should I just block his number? What is his end game here? my flirting skills are rusty sure, but maybe I am “too” straightforward? Literally once again, even after a year of not talking to men (unless they come to me), I am just as confused. Clearly he agrees we both had a good time a few years ago and wants to do it again so why the back and forth? Why go silent? He works a more normal schedule than me,so he clearly is dating around (which is normal) but why even bother texting me then?

Not looking for judgement, as believe me, part of me knows he isn’t worth my energy, but since this is the fourth time now, it is by far bugging me now as what he actually wants as he keeps ghosting. Half of me wouldn’t mind a fun night with him, but another knows he doesn’t respect me and I think I have more respect for myself now than at age 19 to let this happen again. Ugh.