What does this mean?

Not one person on this forum can answer that for you. That said, you handled it like a champ. And that is all you can do and control. If there is a chance he will come back, you left the door open by being awesome!

It means he’s a decent guy & move on…

Did you and him sleep together at any point?

What are you angling with about asking about sex? This ended for whatever reason we will never know. He may have been truthful, he may not. We already said that he should not wait, we have no idea if he will be back and to assume he will not. She did nothing wrong here, even if she slept with him. It does not change that this is over. She should move on. And she was gracious. Which is all you can do.

This is why I think people need to defriend/unattach themselves from exes on social media, at least immediately following a breakup. There are so many posts on this site from women wondering if it means anything that their ex, who they are no longer speaking to, liked something of theirs on FB or viewed their Snapchat story or whatever. It screws with people’s heads. Who knows what it meant? Maybe he’s just nosy. Maybe he liked the picture and wants to be friendly but doesn’t want to get back together. Unless he is calling you up and saying he wants you back, I wouldn’t read anything into it.

And really, I know a lot of people don’t agree, but I think it’s healthier to delete exes from social media immediately after a breakup. It gives you space and time to heal and you aren’t tempted to creep over to their profile and obsess over it. And you don’t get thrown off balance by any tiny little gesture the ex makes (like giving a “like” to something). Once you are truly over the person, if you want to stay in touch as friends that’s one thing. But immediately after a breakup, it serves no purpose to stay friends with an ex and in fact it’s healthier to delete them and give yourself some space to heal.

I think you were fine until you said the two of you should “meet up again” if he’s feeling better (whatever that means).

In the future do not mention that to a man who just told you he can’t continue with you. A man KNOWS how to get a hold of you IF they truly want to see you again! I had TWO out of many relationships (mostly short-term) that developed into long-term relationships, the first I married (lasted over 20 years) and the second I’ve been in a three year relationship with.

In a nutshell, best to accept its over forever, and move on, as the two I mentioned stepped up in a very big way where THEY did all the work ; whereas I sat back and watched to see if they were ALL IN or not. Just know the odds are super small they will return for the right reason (still in or fallen in love), and not just because they haven’t found someone and are bored or lazy to keep looking, so they use you to fill a void as guy’s get lonely too which is why you need to keep your head and wits about you when they *reappear*.