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Sandra
So for Christmas eve I did a loose curl wavy hair style to go with my fam to my bf house and have dinner, a while being in there, I hug him and give him a kiss, and he plays with my hair and tells me he is not used to seeing me with this hairstyle, and that he prefers me with straight hair. I did not like it much because everyone told me how beautiful my hair looked.
So today I was telling him a story about a miss universe that was trying to get volume on her hair and the coordinator was telling her to use salt water to get voluminous hair, so the loose curls would stay in place. And he was like” yeah and? Why would she not want to take advantage of her straight hair which is prettier than that curly hair. ( I found this a bit rude).
Also he has this obsession with meeting celebrities and looking them up in facebook and sending them msgs through facebook messenger.
One time we went to a beautiful museum on a Saturday and at night they were having a gala, and when we left he said oh lets go back and see if we can see celebrities. We went back and it was only a gala for rich people and there was no celebrities whatsoever, he was bummed after that.
Why does he do all of this? Is this a mental weird thing or what ( I mean sending facebook messages to celebrities with Facebook is just odd to me)..
Raven
It is odd…
What are your ages?Better off single
He prefers straight hair and wants to see celebrities like they’re animals at the zoo…yeah you have a weirdo on your hands.
Tallspicy
I cannot tell what ethnicity or from your email. However my guess is is that you are of an ethnicity where women have wavy hair. It sounds like this guy is probably not that great and potential he a racist. You deserve better. People who search for celebrity usually aren’t very happy with themselves. You deserve better get rid of this dude.
kaye
I think the hair preference and being obsessed with celebrities are 2 separate issues. I find the celebrity obsession a little odd simply because he’s a guy and most guys could care less unless it’s one of their celebrity crushes or something.
And let me tell you if I was going on to my husband about Miss Universe trying to get volume in her hair he would be like “Yeah and?” too!! He could care less about hair style topics…he’s a GUY!!
I can also go back and forth between curly hair and straight hairstyles. I prefer my hair straight and think it looks better that way but my friends and family do go on and on about how beautiful it looks when I do it loose and curly. And loose and curly is MUCH easier than trying to get it straight so I often go back and forth. It took me 2 years to get it out of my husband when we were dating that he wasn’t really fond of me with curly hair and he prefers it straight.
Personally I wish he had just told me upfront which he preferred so when we were going out together and I was getting dressed up for him I knew what he liked better. But because I also prefer the way I look with straight hair I never got offended that was his preference. We all have preferences. Because it’s something you can easily change I see no harm in it. If he had told you he preferred tall women and you are short I think that’s another thing because you can’t change it. So I don’t find it odd or rude at all. Celebrity thing though is weird!!
Lane
I agree these are two wholly separate issues!
We all have *preferences* and there is nothing wrong with voicing them if your SO suddenly changes something and you prefer it the other way. Like they say “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” where each set of eyes views it differently and should be free to express their likes and dislikes without upsetting others.
I don’t like men with full beards and if they have one I am not attracted to them the way I am with men who don’t have them. My SO has a goatee but he keeps it well trimmed for the most part and have only had to tell him once or twice his whiskers are too sharp (long) at which point he’ll just go trim them without making a big deal about it.
I know my SO likes my hair down and when I put time into making it nice because he’ll say “your hair looks nice” lol. However, he knows I run a busy business and can’t have my hair down or look that way when working because it would get in my way so its mostly up in a ponytail for ease and convenience but he still loves me the same way and that’s ultimately what matters.
Now for the celebrity thing…its a simple case of “different strokes for different folks.” Some like sports, some like art, some like adventure, some like reading, some like travelling and some like celebrities! I personally don’t care but there are those who do, like the papparatzi; those who follow bands; those who want to look like or dress like them, etc. As long as it doesn’t hurt or harm anyone then it shouldn’t matter what their personal interest(s) are. Now if its something that’s become an addiction and is hurting their ability to keep a job and/or harming relationships with others that’s one thing but if not then it should be considered a passing hobby type of thing. Is it hurting your relationship?
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