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Can
Another guy once said to me he backed off to see how interested I was in him I didn’t chase that guy just moved on bumped into him week later.
I think its a balance mine was off last night took it too far but you have to show an interest as well no guy wants to do all the running
talllady
I have never seen a man back away when you are very playful and responsive to him. Never. If you play games, and don’t respond or be playful or responsive, then you run that risk.
With that said, after date 4 of consistent interaction – (every now and then and not with “How’s your day going” – URGH, that is terrible and BORING), is good to send flirtations – funny images – follow up on something you discussed, is totally fine. But at date 2. No.
Ivy
The number of times texted isn’t wrong in and of itself it is more like your neediness that is a big concern.
Can you please take some time to tell us what is so wonderful and amazing about this man in the short two dates that you just met him that has made you act like he is the last man on earth? I am not saying that in a cynical way but I’d like you to start thinking a little more about why you might be chosing him so early on vs. actually realizing that dating is a process for you to get to know him to determine if he is suitable for you and you are both a good fit. In this case, your only concern seems to be whether he likes you and is doing the things that suggest he does. And at two dates all a man can know is if he is attracted to you and also if he’d possibly like to have a 3rd date.
What is truly behind your behavior is desperacy and low self-esteem. Keep working on improving your self-esteem and dating will be a lot easier for you.
All the best,
Can
He isn’t the last man on earth I know that or my only option just felt we had a connection that’s all and one that doesn’t come along that often.
Again going to say this again I know texting twice last night was bad
Saying hope your days not as hectic as Monday then later asking if he was still working
And again I know that then saying he had been usually quiet and then saying I was missing his chat as a joke was wrong but I am 30 past games like to know where I stand and will back off I have guys asking me on dates I am pretty etc I like him that’s all I am british we have been 2 dates discussed more but been chatting 4 weeks had two night dates and two day dates and agreed to be official
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