Should I be worried about this?

I honestly think youre not, you are completely entitled to feel like this. Others may tell you are being overdramatic, but a dude who constantly likes his ex’s stuff but none of the girl hes seeing …yeah red flag. What do you know about him and his previous relationship? It is possible they are just on decent terms. But again…..men show themselves through their actions. Sigh

I have been talking to this guy and we were from tinder. He is from Italy. Since we started talking I told him about how my boyfriend abuses me and he said he’ll help me out. I told him I love him first and he said it was soon but he later said it. But after a day or two he hasn’t been replying to my texts and he is online. He promised to come and see me from his country and I totally understand he is busy working but why can’t he reply to my texts? Should I be worried?

Liz,

We agreed not see other people pretty early on. We see each other on average once a week sometimes twice. I have a child so it’s not that easy for me to see him more. We’re definitely going at a slow pace.

I wouldn’t say he’s overly attentive to her social media. He wasn’t like every post and picture but there were enough likes to give me an uneasy feeling. I don’t think they’re in particularly friendly terms, but even so her profile pic was a bit sexy so I just don’t think it was appropriate for him to like it.

I don’t know much about his relationship with his ex, but I know they were together for about 8 months and at this point they’ve been broke up for about 6 months. I asked him once why they broke up and he just said they had a fight and never spoke again (I think there’s more to that story). He also told me when we first started seeing each other that he had reached out to her few times a couple of months after they stopped talking but nothing came of it.

Liz,

I’ve only seen her like one post of his and it was a pic of his children, so I wouldn’t say she’s really liking his social media.

As for the times he reached out to her he said she responded but nothing came of it, so I don’t know if that means they’re friends, amicable or what. I know they’re not like real friends who speak and keep in touch. Either way liking some hot pic of your ex is going to raise eyebrows especially if it was a breakup with the last few years. If your liking pics of your ex from 20 years ago that may be a different story.

Well the thing is, I think we’re just both not in a position to commit. I have a lot on my plate right now and just don’t have much spare time for a relationship, I think for him he might not particularly be looking for one since he’s got a lot going on as well. I’m fine with where we are as long as he’s not seeing anyone else, I know he’s not seeing his ex right now but given his behavior I can’t help but think he would if the opportunity arose. Just comes down to me not wanting to be seeing/dating someone who’s pining over someone else.

It sounds like you really want to get rid of him and you’re looking for excuses. Drop the “liking” worries and just dump him already!

Yeah i had a feeling youre not that into him either since you said im seeing a dude since june. I also get you dont want a guy pining over an ex. But it doesnt have to be an ex. Can be a new person. But still if you also not sure how to keep going you still need to talk about it. I agree with weio. Communicate