Shall I give it a go?

Him being this eager before having even met you seems like a red flag to me. I would advise you to not indulge him in this behavior. You seem to have voiced your boundaries and concerns, now it’s his turn to prove that he respects you by changing his behavior appropriately. I think that if he keeps being this eager even after the conversation you had yesterday, it would shows a lack of respect for your boundaries and I would stop talking to him altogether as it is an even bigger red flag.
Concretely, I’d say prioritize the 4 other guys whom you’re gonna be living close to and who have been acting normally. It seems like you’re more interested in them anyway, and you should not compromise your needs and wants for someone you haven’t even met yet. You two can’t consider moving cities to live closer to each other that early on, but you guys still corresponding prove that it is not off the table.
If he slows down after the discussion you had yesterday, I’d say keep talking to him from time to time and see how things go, but focus mainly on the four ones that make you feel more comfortable and do not compel you to write in a forum for advices. Trust your gut, it seems like you already know the answer yourself.

Thanks for the replies, ladies!

@Talia, yes he seemed to have understood the message but he is still mentioning us in the future just adding “Though, one day at a time please!” to soften the message. Today I jokingly said I had adopted the no sex before marriage rule, to which he said he had adopted the no sex before myself rule. Meaning he will be waiting for me, apparently.

I don’t know if that’s a sign of disrespect because it all has a rather playful funny nature.

I try to be careful and skeptical. A couple of years ago I was involved in a LDR which started in flames, passion, love bombing and ended equally fast leaving me confused and hurt. I want things to develop organically, starting slow and sweet. Not like a hurricane.

@Newbie, I never posted about him or this case. Guess a lot of people go through similar situations :) We met during lockdown. Tiner had the passport feature, I went around the destination country and “bumped into” him, he superliked me, started chatting etc.
We have been chatting on and off since April. In the beginning of September something changed, he started texting more, calling, chasing – and here we are.

Based on your feedback, I think I need to be more serious and put my foot down. At the moment I’m trying to set the boundaries being nice at the same time but I guess it’s not working that well.

And yeah being close to a big city, I don’t want to do a LDR (was experimenting with it here due to the lack of good local prospects but it was such a pain).

I will add that I find it strange that it all changed suddenly in September, with him being more eager. Seems like it was a conscious decision on his part, that might have been motivated by his own life changes. I am also thinking that it is strange for a father of three kids to go this fast, since you’re probably gonna have to interact with its kids if it is serious. I wouldn’t bring any stranger to my kids life, and would be at the opposite extra careful. (I don’t have kids though, so I can only speak theoretically).
Otherwise, I don’t find his playfulness disrespectful either, so that’s good that he can respect boundaries to at least some extent.

“I would like to meet the other guys, him and then decide how to proceed”.

So do that! But leave him as the last one you meet.
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Good luck on your big adventure!