No second hook up

Hey! This is such an unfortunate situation to be in and I have been there myself. You think it is innocent to have sex and it is all fun and good times, but then you realise you have absolutely no control of the situation afterwards and if there will a anymore times.
If a guy can sense you are into him for more than sex (they sense this no matter how good of an actor you are) they will most likely turn you down. Unless they are a complete piece of trash. They do this in respect for you and also because it is not attractive to be with someone who is more into you than you are into them. Just like you dont want to kiss your friend who is in love with you even though you really like him as a friend.
Sure if you go to the same parties and stick around till the early drunk hours there might be a possibility that it can happen again. But you do not want to find yourself in a situation like that even though you crave his attention. I think you should really take this as a learning lesson.
When it comes to sex men need to feel that they have concurred you. You will feel horrible if you sleep with him again and he has no respect for you. Please dont do that! This is though but in a few months you will feel a lot better about yourself! And you will not end up wasting your precious time on something that is not good for your soul!

Sex is sex…

Wtf? Where is your self respect?

See Anderson, that’s why I was puzzled and my self esteem took a hit. Because even if he thought I’d be too much problem and more difficult to get rid than others and maybe he has some issues (that’s wishful thinking on my part the issues thing), I just can’t understand. You have objectively attractive girl who is into you, wants to have sex, didn’t mention any commitment and just wanted to repeat the experience.
Mullegoj gave an optimistic excuse – there are so many girls available and he might have pick on my expectations.
But still.. I know I gave myself freely, maybe I lost self respect but you know I did want to have sex, ok?
Anderson, what’s your take, what can make a guy not to repeat the hook up? (I’m not a walking STDs, don’t look trashy, I was just easy that night according to the society standards. Of course guys are heroes and I have no self respect duh)

In my situation, he was interested in more than a hookup once we did finally meet. He wanted more but was so traumatized by previous relationships that he freaked out when it came time to set up a second date. We did talk about the issue so it wasn’t like I was ghosted. Months past and we saw each other again, he was hinting towards seeing each other, then went radio silent again. In my situation, we have talked and he is afraid that he’s going to get hurt or that he will be used like other women in his life have done. I haven’t given up because he is a good guy, it’s just a challenge to get him to open up. It is just quite an ear opener that not just women get traumatized by a bad relationship and the actions of one person can have an affect on some many.

So many different opinions. Honestly I seduced him before he had a chance to do so. I just felt free and adventurous and knew we’d might not see each other again so I wanted to sleep with him and see what it’s like. We spent the night and definitely felt a bit of friendly vibes but him being scared that I got attached. At least I don’t wonder why “If I haven’t showed him how great in bed I could be”.
Vera, anticipation – definitely, honestly the second we met up I knew I want to sleep with him. It almost never happens. So I was a guy in that scenario for a brief moment. I thought guy like hooking up with girls they know they can just to get laid.
Chris – is this sincere? Everyone gets hurt but we move on and get hurt 100 times more. Your posts shows that nothing is black or white. Guys have their issues too but I have no idea if it’s also an excuse. What others think?
Khadija – I thought this guy might be into easy sex and I know it sounds pathetic and I should work on myself but don’t be so harsh. Of course I probably wanted for it to develop into something. This forum is for rambling but voicing your opinion without being so judgmental and rude. I already mentioned that yup, pathetic on my part.

How did it get to the point where he turned you down a second time?
Like usually a hook up will eventually come back if they aren’t involved with someone and you don’t push.
But he probably sensed you wanted more.

I have 2 FWB types and we stay pretty minimal contact between connecting. There is no “follow up” texting, though we might say hey or send a funny meme or something. No good guy wants to start an emotional connection with a woman he is just having sex with.

Actually, I recently reconnected with a guy I hooked up with and he was so oddly intimate in my space, that it was a turn off and I asked him to leave. He literally did nothing wrong, but he started talking about future plans to see me, and just kind of being wayyyyyyy to interested in me. It was so awkward and now I get why guys need to keep that distance….

I meant your rambling is sad to hear. You shouldn’t have to settle for crumbs from him or any man.

In the end only he knows why he has decided not to come back for more.
Really focus on why you would be okay with settling for sex.

Ivone, I’m curious. How old are you?

And do you believe any man who had sex with you would be out of his mind to not want to do it again?