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Sam
Thank you @AngieBaby. I wasn’t going to do that over text. I rather say this in person especially if I am unsure if he would pick up the phone.
Liz Lemon
Don’t just ignore him hoping that he’ll go away. Do what Angiebaby said. Be polite but direct, tell him that you don’t feel a romantic connection and don’t want to date any more. You don’t have to have a long conversation about it so don’t let him suck you in or try to prolong it. I really think a phone call is better than seeing him in person because you can just hang up and end the call and not get sucked into a debate.
Have you gotten physical with this guy? As in, do you make out, have sex, etc? Because if you haven’t (and it’s not clear to me that you have), honestly it shouldn’t be hard to end this.
AngieBaby
Sam, it’s perfectly OK to do this over the phone. This is a relatively short time dating and in a case like this it’s acceptable to do it over the phone. (If you had been officially together a long time then in person would be only fair.) It will be VERY awkward to do this in person – you don’t owe it to him. If he doesn’t pick up, leave him a message or text him to please CALL you back.
Raven
He texts you for money, text him so long…
Tammy
Hes treating you just like a casual friend. So u shld do the same. M not sure why u seem so hung up on him.. if he messages n makes plan, u can either cut off things or keep the chat brief. If he asks abt meeting, u can say u hv plans. Usually with such type of men, i simply fade away. Its not that there is anything serious going on between you two that u owe him explanations. Put him on the back burner. If infuture your ever bored, and at a loose end, and want company of a frnd to hang out wid, u can oing him.. otherwise stop lettin hin occupy valuable space in ur head.
Sam
Thank you for the insight everyone
Gaia
He’s not even treating you like a good, casual friend. I’d be ticked if my friends went out with me then asked me to venmo them money for the evening. That’s ridiculous.
I’m with Raven on this one. He hasn’t even earned a phone call. I’d text him, sorry I’m not interested in seeing you any longer.
There is nothing you’ve said so far that makes this man worth your time.
AngieBaby
I agree this could go either way – phone or text. I think she should say something to cut it off rather than ignore him and hope he goes away so he doesn’t keep popping up, because clueless guys like this have a way of doing that, they don’t catch the hint. We see a lot of complaints here about when guys just fade out. If we don’t like it, we shouldn’t do it to them. In this instance, I see nothing wrong with text. But if you want to uphold your own standard and be a class act, make a phone call.
Sam, I hope you will learn from this experience not to ignore your feelings and keep dating someone who isn’t treating you right. If you don’t like the way you’re being treated either say something or remove yourself from the situation. This is a guy who just doesn’t know how to treat a woman – this isn’t dating this is just hanging out together. Any guy who was repeatedly late, after the third time I’d text him I didn’t see this going anywhere and block. Any guy invited me out and then at the told me to at the end to Venmo him my half, I’d send the money and then block. Decide what your standards and stick to it. If someone treats you poorly, you walk away. No explanation or discussion needed.
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