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Rebekah
Hello,
I am in a very happy relationship and we live together. We have been looking at engagement rings and I am so excited to consider a future with him. He is truly my best friend and I feel very at home with him. We have had a few issues here and there like most couples do, and one of them is a bit of jealousy. We both led a life before each other that included a large variety of people. We met some time ago on a dating website and each deleted our profiles but kept Snapchat. We are on each other’s stories all the time, each other’s BFF’s, we are plastered all over each other’s Facebook pages, etc. Social media wise we are openly and clearly very in love and in a serious relationship.He has had a few jealousy issues, especially revolving around Snapchat. Obviously there is not a saved history of who is snapping who and what the content is and he feels like this just makes him uncomfortable. I use Snapchat quite a bit, but I never send anything inappropriate to anyone. I will say from his point of view though, TONS of guys still Snap me. I either delete them as they come in, or it is so harmless that I don’t see anything wrong with it. I am not sure what to do. I do enjoy it but also find that it makes him feel pretty insecure.
redcurleysue
I will tell you the same if you are a man or woman. If your activities make it uncomfortable for the person you are with…and you do not really care about the activity…let it go.
Show good faith. Show you care about the other person’s feelings. Only on things that do not really matter to you…if it matters then that is a whole different story.
Ashley
He should trust you. You’re about to be engaged & he’s worried about snap? Marriage is hard & there will be far more difficult times than Snapchat insecurities! Personally I think he needs to grow up.
Raven
Is he controlling in other areas of your relationship?
Rebekah
I do think that fundamentally he trusts me, but as we hide nothing from each other he has also been witness to me opening an unsolicited d*** pic from some thirsty guy from the past, and feels like it is unnecessary. And I would feel the same way if I saw him open a picture of some random chick’s boobies. I wouldn’t not trust him but I would also dislike his use of it. Now, I delete these guys as they pop up but there are still inappropriate snaps that slip through.
Snapchat is definitely not more important to me than he is. I do enjoy it, though, and am considering recommending an alternative that we go through each other’s accounts together and talk about deleting certain people?
Rebekah
@Raven, no he is not controlling. He encourages me to go out with my friends, spend money on myself, be my own person, dress how I feel I look the best, etc. I would say we have a pretty healthy relationship as far as that goes. He does ask me who I am texting or Snapchatting, though.
Kathy
I’m definitely with RCS on this one.. Listen to her! She is wise and right!
Hannah
In that case I’d delete it. I don’t use snapchat but I know my husband would hate men to be sending me dick pics. Never compromise on things that are important to you but, if you don’t really care anyway and he hates it, I’d get rid of it.
Rebekah
He despises it. He knows that I am not doing anything wrong with it but it just grinds his gears that there are men who know we are in a relationship and they don’t respect that boundary. I think it causes unnecessary issues for sure.
Hannah
I’m not surprised. Men are generally territorial, especially sexually. Plus I think most of them have insecurities about how they “measure up” compared with other men. Why create unnecessary issues in your relationship?
Obviously I wouldn’t be saying this if he was controlling or asking something you really feel is important to you. But all relationships are compromises.
Logan
Is he willing to delete his Snapchat, too?
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