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    Leigh

    I really like this guy. He is my cousins best friend and when we met we talked and spent several nights together (no sex) just having allot of fun. We had alot of conversations about really personal things pretty early, but were initiated by him. About a week ago we finally caved and became intimate. the next day i didn’t hear from him and knew he was working but sent him some silly texts through out my day(Tues), including Will Farrell Quotes cause he thinks they are hilarious. He called me later that day and we talked a little and he told me he was moving to North Dakota, that his work had sat him down and decided he was the best guy for the job, since he is single and unattached. the day after we had had sex. Now, I had been waiting for the last year and a half to find someone real that i connected with on a deeper level and had allot of fun with. I cried at first when hearing this news but told him an hour later if he wanted to continue to get to know each other i really would like to try. I also told him i really needed to talk to him face to face after all that had happened when he got time. he replied ok. And now he is moving and i hadn’t seen him since we had sex.

    My insecurities are starting to make me anxious when the next night he is to tired to come see me. And i then started the needy texting. I am so ashamed of myself, I had no idea how bad it was till recently. So Friday i was really hoping he would come over and we could talk, and by now i’m feeling a sort of urgency due to the fact the move was going to happen in only a few weeks. He replied he was going out with the boys, and i replied for him to have extra fun for me cause i had to stay in and study( and was sooo good, i didnt text him again the whole night). Saturday, i waited to hear from him til 5/6 when he should have been off work, and called him. no answer. So i went to Walmart for groceries nerves still on edge and feeling really vulnerable and now kind of stupid for waiting so long and then giving this man a part of me. He called me back and it seemed like he was cutting out bad and he said i’m not coming over tonight….. pause… i asked if he was there he said he was in a hole…Pause…(he;s a pipe layer for a construction company) so i asked if he was still at work….. no, I’m in bed….. Click… Now the logical person would have taken into account he had spent a long night out with the boys and worked all day so was exhausted. Which of course i realized after my freak out.
    Well, unfortunately, I have had a streak of dickwad men in my life, one of which called me while screwing another woman to break up with me. So me in the emotional state i was already in freaked and started asked him what he meant by he was in a hole. was he ok… i tried calling back about 5 times and sent paragraph texts. He called back later that night and i missed it but when i called back his friend answered and said he was eating he would call me back… He never did… Sigh then came to apology texts and then the trying to explain what happened. it just got worse. the other day he finally texted saying i was just too crazy for him. then his friend got on his phone and texted some really mean things pretending to be him and i went off telling him just how much of an ass he was. Later i get a text saying, sorry that text was my buddy, but yeah this isn’t going to work You have been texting too much… He still has to come get his things from my house… Is it even worth trying to talk to him. I haven’t texted him since, and its been 2 days. When he told me i had texted him too much i really didnt believe him.

    So i went onto My carriers website to look. I am so ashamed of myself. I don’t know what go into me, and now i lost this guy i’m crazy about because i lost my ever loving mind. He shares my beliefs, makes me laugh, and every time he is around i’m just genuinely happy. I worked out a system I thought about proposing to him if he comes over and is at all willing to talk… that i wont text him, til he texts me, then one text, no paragraphs, but honestly i am so lost. I don’t want to lose him over something i can fix. I’m trying to be strong and look real nice so i get that extra boost of confidence. But i was truly insane… And i have no idea if sitting down with him, expressing my regret and shame and telling him i found ways to control it and have set rules for myself, would he at least give me a chance, would even help at this point.

    I have really been beating myself up over this, Maybe i just took sex too seriously.

    #370427 Reply
    Gemini615

    Sorry but sounds like the damage has been done; there isn’t really anything you can do to turn the situation around. Men don’t like drama and they don’t like crazy. The way you acted was crazy but at least you can see that in retrospect.

    Use this as a learning lesson and don’t repeat the same mistakes in the future with other guys. You need to try to move on from this guy. Don’t contact him anymore and delete his number.

    #370436 Reply
    Aries

    Wow you were acting wayy to clingy and needy. You guys werent even in a relationship and if another guy called and broke up with u while having sex (ouch!) Then youre picking the wrong guys. Also, no guy is going to respect a female who acts like this. Tone it down BIG TIME. Guys like doing the chasing!!

    #370437 Reply
    Harley

    No…The damage is done. Leave well alone. Just learn from this fir the next guy. I had a guy text me all the time….It turned me right off.

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