I feel like a Loser

I am 36, i have a decent job. I own my own condo in a very expensive Canadian market, something most people my age cannot do, especially without help from family. I did it alone and the vale of my place has gone up quite a bit. Since i bought my place I have lived outside my pay, gone on vacations, dated tried to live life. This has led to me about 16k debt. I was at a job that was bad for me mental
Health and got a new job, this job started just before I went on a vacation that I had saved for, used points for a free flight but the switch of companies meant no vacation pay and no pay for a few weeks.
So here I am, in my mid 30’s stressing about this debt.. I got a second job so I can pay it off faster and get a financial cushion so I do not feel this way… i just feel like a loser, i know i suffer from FOMO… i just feel at my age i should be farther ahead. I look at friends who are married, with kids and have great jobs and i just wish i was there…. i just feel like a loser now having to get a second job. I keep telling myself in the long run i will be better off, and who knows what doors could open from here.