I don’t want him back but how do I deal with my anger?


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    Cherry

    Split up with my ex about 2 months ago. At first I was really upset and wanted him back, then I thought about the relationship and realised it was s*** and he was s***. My problem is I work with him so I have to see him everyday. We don’t have to speak to each other (which we don’t anymore) but we do have to see each other regularly. I was off for a week, then he was and I felt great but now we’re both back there and I just get so angry with him and myself every time I see him. I just want to stop being angry and become indifferent but how?

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    Raven

    Hindsight is 20/20… This is why you don’t date people you work with…

    If you don’t have to speak to each other, why do you have to see each other?

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    Anderson

    In time you’ll get desensitized to his presence and thus indifferent, but until then there are a few ways

    It’s easier to tolerate people you don’t like if you resist thinking they’re “all bad.” No matter who I can’t stand or dislike I can always think of some of their good traits. Or as a last resort genuinely feel sorry for them. No, this doesn’t result in wanting to associate with them, nor forgiving them if they screwed up etc. I still want nothing to do with them but it does warm me up towards them instead of stewing in anger. And that balance makes me tolerant enough to be content in giving them basic human respect, wishing them well but all with a “reserved politeness.”

    Stop hoping you won’t run into each other or he won’t appear in your eyeline. A lot of the times how you feel about something is based on expectation (and a bit of letting go of control). He’s going to be there and you need to adapt yourself to that new reality. You can even make it as a challenge for self growth. Good luck

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