I can't get over this guy

So I am going to try to cut the story, met this guy on bumble a month after I was in an LDR that ended abruptly. Started dating he was nice treated me good, had sex with him on the fourth date, he asked if I can come over every weekend and was mature about certain things, was willing to discuss. But I just wasn’t feeling it and I tried plus he reminded me of my ex who practically dumped me the April, I started dating him in May. This guy was moving quickly in my eyes like my ex and had some of the same characteristics. Also, he spoke about sexual discovering things with me way faster than I liked like 3somes. He wanted a relationship within a week or so. He has a one-year-old and the week after we hooked up, a bit of baby mother drama happened, I told him I couldn’t deal and he asked me to stay he would fix it, I was dating other people too etc. The problem he had was I didn’t trust him and I seemed like I could leave any minute. I could feel him distancing but he said he was still willing to try. I broke up with him after he said he wanted to date other people and after I did he asked if there was anything he could do. I said something he said ok and then I told him I wanted him back and he said ok, it felt kinda tense and forced. He was still ok with me coming over on the weekends and the weekend before I left he asked why I didn’t come over. I went away from September to November and in September he told me to take some time to reflect and get back to him, I did talk to him once in a while but not on that then I didn’t text him for two months, the whole time I was thinking about him, crying about him but he was just cold to me I believe, anyways came back 3 weeks ago and decided to call yesterday it was good. He said he was dating or something like that and we can hang out. He told me his friends kept asking for me which he knew they would because he doesn’t bring women around that early he told me this the entire time we dated and we were around his friends like don’t kiss me, because if you leave etc. I made the mistake of texting him when he was free between dates and he told me when and then I texted that I had in mind like a movie night ( no sex because on our phone call before I told him I was going celibate). He said he was not free no weekends after he told me he was free one weekend, I know that means he doesn’t want me over anymore and then after that embarrassment, I told him I know I am taking him for granted by texting him that and I will text if I will come in that day he said ‘ok’ to it all. Then after all that I texted ‘ and out of all curiosity are you dating anyone seriously?’ He hasn’t replied I want him to say yes so mentally I can get over him. If I read this from someone else I would want to slap that person and say girl he has moved on getting over him, it’s not working. Focus on you. I felt so pressured when I was with him and the air always felt heavy, felt like had to walk on eggshells and it also felt like he wanted me to be someone he wanted. But I can’t shake the good times, it’s like I am obsessing over a 4 month on and off thing that I didn’t want. All I had to do was go all in and I didn’t and I know walking away from him is the right thing but why can’t I get over it and it’s annoying. I talk about him all the time with my friends every day. He said he was past the angry and upset stage with me. What am I doing? Anyways any advice ?