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Yes, option 2. And there is no reason for you to speak to him again, even if you want to. I suggest you learn some breathing and meditation techniques so that you can deal with wanting to talk to him. It will never end well.

He knows he is married. He knows if you disappear it is because you found that out. Let him lie in his own guilt and remorse. Jacka$$

Well I came on here and vented. And then I realized that while I may feel better for a second, that ultimately I would feel awful and pathetic. And somehow validate him as I would basically be saying I still want him by wasting that time and energy. So I didn’t do anything. And the funny thing is when I was so mad I threatened to do it to him but never went through with it. And of course he continued to contact me. He had moved and started seeing her but whenever he comes home he still contacts me. So things are not any better for this other girl. but it is not my place to let her know what he is doing. She has to have some idea as girls are intuitive and she knows about me. I did take some slight pleasure I’m not going to lie, that he was doing the same thing to her. Because I really thought he would start seeing her seriously and was going to change. It’s been several months and he hasn’t changed. SO learn from what I did and don’t do it. You’ll feel awful in the end. I know it’s easy when you’re so mad and not thinking straight, but take a deep breath and wait. Calm down a bit. Then you will start to see more clearly and not want to cause the drama telling her would obviously create. Does anyone agree with what I said/did?

Yes Claire. Thanks for telling us about this.

I know what you want to do here, you don’t want this woman to keep living a lie but, It’s not your job to prevent her suffering. She probably knows her husband is cheating on her and she might be in denial. We always know, I can assure you. We can try to fool ourselves but deep inside we know. Try to heal and move on.

Block him, stop talking to him, stop responding. Move forward. Train your mind to move forward and leave this man behind you and never look back. That what you should do.

Please, Marbles. Think of this, you only have one life. Make sure to use it well. Make sure to treasure more good times than pain. Everyday, we make a choice. What’s your choice? To move forward and find your own happiness or be stuck in that situation which will cause a lot lot lot of pain? Im sure you know deep in your guts what’s the right answer.

You will find the closure you need within you. Don’t look for it in him. I have been hurt so many times, and will be hurt even more in the future. Have the right mindset: I am glad I’ve been hurt because Im wiser now compared to who I was 5 years ago. There are things I cannot change but what I can change is my reaction to it.

Be independent! You can do it, be strong. Fight the urge to talk to him, you know you deserve better!

@april

U made me think so much..thanks..u knw i haven’t blocked him yet..i havent said a word to him abt knowing that he is married..i have just been thinking about wat should i do now…

A man who lied so much…wat gud it will be to confront him..i will have to listen to another lie maybe. U r right !! A day or two and i have promised himself i’ll be out of the whole drama..

Marbles, you need to stop this. This man has played you, won’t leave his wife, is a cheater. If you talk to him, changes are he will feed you more lies and you will give him the benefit of the doubt. And regret that later, once you realized you could have used that time to find a guy that’s actually worth it. Leave him alone, delete his numbers, just realize you need time to calm down. Don’t you have friends you can spend time with? And talk about this.

You are not the first woman in this world to get played or cheated on.

You are investing way too much energy into this.. When as someone previously stated, you could be out meeting a decent man.

I suggest you move on and not waste another brain cell on this. It’s. It your problem. You are wrestling with your hurt ego and don’t give a damn about his wife. If a man is good enough at it, he can fool a lot of women. And he can talk his way out of getting caught, or if not move on.

You do not the dynamics of their marriage. Many woman know and tolerate their man cheating for a variety of reasons.

For your own sanity… Let it go. Yes.. You were duped. Almost all of us have been there… If you are going to date, there are risks.

Marbles, i don’t think i got it wrong. You are sending mixed signals, first you ask yourself why a guy promises you marriage while he is married (well to get him to sleep with you until you find out he has a wife), then you want to tell his wife (everybody that replied here, said, don’t do it, forget about him and their relationship is not yours), then you state i want to confront him maybe (that’s the part where i was referring to; don’t because he can trap you again, you are still confused). Now everybody here has told you, from an honest perspective what they think, and you still unsure about how to proceed. they are telling you this for a reason: we all hope you take your blinders off, accept that you were played and that this was not your fault. But the next step is on you.

Agree with Tall and the others. You seem to think you are establishing some sort of justice but I highly doubt he cares enough about your opinions or actions to change his ways. He’s going to do what he wants regardless.