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  • #413859 Reply
    marbles

    Ok so i wish to contact someone on facebook..we have no mutual friends…it seems the messages are going into the “other folder”….is there any way i can make sure the messages go into the main inbox..i think facebook earlier allowed that on payment of a certain sum but i couldnt find any such feature now

    Will it work if i try to make some random mutual friends…will the messages reach the person then ??

    #413861 Reply
    Mae

    No. I’ve tried, to no avail. Try another avenue.. LinkedIn?

    #413862 Reply
    Raven

    Send that person a friend request…

    #413864 Reply
    marbles

    I did sent a friend request…was not accepted…the messages are still not reaching the person..will poking help ???? Or making any mutual friend ??

    #413869 Reply
    marbles

    @mae

    Linkedin is a great idea..i wilk try…but i dont think the person is regular checking on linkedin…i want to reach him fast…its urgent !! Any other suggestion

    #413870 Reply
    marbles

    @mae

    Linkedin is a great idea..i wilk try…but i dont think the person is regular checking on linkedin…i want to reach him fast…its urgent !! Any other suggestion

    #413874 Reply
    talllady

    Wait! Why do you want to contact them?

    You should not be contacting any men first. In dating world….

    #413898 Reply
    Harley

    Marbles….you are young I’d I remember right. IF IF IF this is a bitchy message to the guy you last posted about OR his gf/ wife …don’t do it.

    If I’m wrong about the theory I have here . I apologise.

    #413914 Reply
    marbles

    @Harley

    I’d be honest u r right….

    I didnt tell him that i now know he is married…this man still tells me he loves me..still tells me he wants to marry me…still makes plans to meet me

    Why is that every person wants to save this man from the consequences of wat he did..see i dont wish to destroy anyone’s life..i come from a broken family so i understand it all..

    But then the tacts that he use..the way he lies..no one can know he is lying..dating someone is diffrent but making a matrimonial profile(made to find ur life partner) is a serious thing.. his wife will be fooled throughout her life…i will never take him back..i know his wife will not leave him..its not that easy i know..my mom never left my dad…

    I only intend to warn her..some men never change..my dad never did (ofcourse he is not characterless like him dere are other problems) but if my mom understood him life would have been better…hiding truth makes it worse…i think she needs to know..am i wrong ??

    #413920 Reply
    alia

    Thing is subconsciously she already knows. If she is not willing to act on it it is her deal. Say you actually go through with this with an intention of helping the wife understand, what can you do for he when it all falls apart? Would you help her pick up the pieces? Say be her emotional support for the next 5 years she gets back on her feet? What’s your motivation for doing this is the real question.

    #413926 Reply
    Ali

    Bad idea. She won’t understand. She’ll feel attacked and confused. Your message probably won’t make a difference. It will only suck you in again and prevent you from moving on. Quit wasting emotional energy on this and focus on moving on.

    #413928 Reply
    talllady

    Marbles,

    I am going to be blunt so you understand.

    You are doing this for your own personal reasons, not to help this woman. You are being selfish. You know nothing about her and her relationship. This is a selfish and bad move. You are in pain and instead of saying, I am in pain, you are trying to drag that pain around to anyone you can pin it on.

    You are staying in this drama by doing this. Instead of letting their drama be their drama. Even if she believed you, which is unlikely, you are still involved in something that is none of your business.

    Does that mean he is not a jerk? Nope! But the only way through is to just stay away from him and heal yourself. Anything else is just to make you feel better, so stop calling it some sore of helpful mission.

    #413929 Reply
    talllady

    The consequences are that he no longer gets to have you in his life. That is enough. Karma will do the rest.

    #413937 Reply
    marbles

    Ok so u think living a lie is better than facing the truth…i dont want to hurt her..i know wat it means to face all this…but wat i have learnt is that its better to face the truth than live a lie.
    And subconsciously knowing is different…its not possible to act wen u just feel there is sumthng wrong..i couldnt act wen i thought there was something wrong…i could only act wen i actually found out the truth..is it not ??
    I will not be dere to help her but then she is a strong women..if i can manage well she will too..infact i m sure she will handle all things well as far as i know her.

    #413940 Reply
    talllady

    Her relationship is her business. It is not yours. We are not saying we think living a lie is better. But that is her life, which has nothing to do with you. You are not trying to really make it better for her. You are making it better for you. And you won’t feel better. I promise.

    Her truth is for her to find. Your truth is not her truth. Your story and past has nothing to do with her. You need to heal your own crap and focus on you.

    They way you are acting now, you are not facing your truth. You are doing everything you can to not be present to the real pain you should be feeling. Deal with that pain on your own and move on. You energy is much better spent healing and moving on that trying to drag others into this.

    #413943 Reply
    talllady

    I doubt your story was that someone told you someone was cheating on you and then you were made better. Because you clearly are not better.

    #413944 Reply
    marbles

    I know all u people are right….i sometimes really feel i am wasting my emotional energy..i keep on gettibg confused between the ideas to tell her or not…feel so helpless

    Never came across a lier like him….makes me question every thing now..thank u all..i think i need to rethink or maybe drop the idea.

    #413949 Reply
    marbles

    Just wish to know if there is anyone or knows anyone who has actually done wat i thought of doing….wat happened then..anything to share ?? Just curious

    @talllady @ali my problem isin’t that she would not believe me..so many evidences to prove his association with me.

    @talllady
    I don’t mind u being blunt.. ur words really hit me hard..n they only hit wen they r true..but still i want to be completely satisfied with watever i decide..to tell her or be silent…but i wish that watever i decide is well thought… so i never look back n think ohh i missed doing dat !! That is why so much discussion but i think thats much needed as of now.

    #413957 Reply
    talllady

    Marbles,

    I know this is really hard. And I totally understand how you can confuse what you are doing as helping her. That is normal and human, but it is really just trying to avoid your pain.

    Human beings are not rational and even if you have lot of proof, it is still possible she will not believe you. Because she will not want to see the truth. For all you know, she has already been told by someone else. The reality is I doubt you are the first and you won’t be the last of this man’s conquests.

    Something I told someone this morning – ” Do not waste your energy on stupid people. Because you will have just wasted your energy and they will still be stupid.”

    #413963 Reply
    Phillygirl

    Marbles you need to stop this. Now.

    Regardless of whether or not she believes you, you will be involved in hurting this person. Even when someone tries to tell a close friend or family member something like this, it is rarely received well. And it doesn’t matter what kind of evidence you have. People can be experts at self-deceit and refusal to acknowledge something unpleasant.

    On top of that, you would be telling her of your role in this, as the person her husband cheated with. That is not going to go over well.

    If you honestly didn’t know he was married, then both you and her have been fooled and manipulated by him. I think it is extremely cruel and emotionally immature of you to try and punish her further for this.

    I completely agree with Tallady. You are doing this for selfish hurtful reasons. I don’t buy that any of this is for altruistic purposes.

    But bottom line, you need to leave this alone and stay out of her life.

    When someone does you wrong, you take the high road. Not to protect them, but to honor and appreciate yourself as someone better than that.

    His punishment is living with his pathetic self and not having you in his life. It is not your job or mission in life to “make him pay”. And if you make this your mission, that says something very revealing and sad about you.

    Leave this alone. This is her life to live, and her lie to uncover, if she wishes to do so.

    This is not your business. It is time for you to learn a lesson early in life about dating and relationships.

    And that is you only control yourself, no one else. So start controlling yourself now, with this situation. Deal with and move on from the hurt, and get yourself emotionally healthy.

    Hurting another will not get you there, I promise.

    #413969 Reply
    Claire

    I debated doing this with my ex and a girl he was seeing. I have posted about it a few times. I refrained and trust me you should do the same. You would only feel worse after. I’d like to think that karma will get these men but who knows. I am starting to wonder if that is actually true. Bc it doesn’t seem like karma has come to this guy I was dealing with.

    #413970 Reply
    Claire

    I debated doing this with my ex and a girl he was seeing. I have posted about it a few times. I refrained and trust me you should do the same. You would only feel worse after. I’d like to think that karma will get these men but who knows. I am starting to wonder if that is actually true. Bc it doesn’t seem like karma has come to this guy I was dealing with.

    #413973 Reply
    MarineGirl

    Marbles… understand why you’re upset, but don’t go there. You don’t know what can of worms you’re opening. These things have a way of backfiring and getting out of control. She will find out in due course what she needs to find out, you have to trust that.

    #413984 Reply
    marbles

    Thank u all for putting in so much efforts. I appreciate that.

    @claire just curious wat made u refrain from doing so ??

    @phillygirl you are right in saying i will hurt her..i know that..but for the evidences u mentioned..i have so many that i can prove every lie..call recordings where he has talked about his wife as a friend and how he doesnt like her, facebook messages, snapshot of his matrimonial profile, wassup messages, i luv u texts, train tickets wen he came to meet me after lying to her and so many more.

    @talllady i m wasting my energy on a stupid person..yah thats right !! But its not that i want to

    @marinegirl i m afraid too..wat if it backfires.

    Somewhere deep down i know i m being selfish..the wife has been wronged too just like me..its not her fault… i wish to reach a point where i no longer want to think about all this…be completely satisfied that i m doing wat i must do and wat is actually right.

    #413990 Reply
    marbles

    Ok guys if i follow wat u say and not tell his wife…then wat should i do…talk to him one last time..vent out all my anger…tell him i know that he is married, that he is a lier and that i never wish to see him again etc

    Or just block him..stop taking his calls..stop responding..block him on every social site we are on..

    Yeah the second option would be dignified and all but i am afraid i might feel like talking to him once he stops contacting him..i really loved him..i think i need a closure..thats wat i feel..wat do u think ????

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