How to relax and not worry

Everybody is turned off by people who worry too much. It shows you do not know how to calm down, be present, make the most of a bad situation. Besides, being worried about a guy _ especially one not your boyfriend is a waste of time.

K is right: If you have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, all the grounding techniques in the world won’t help you to calm you down. You’ll need to go to your doctor (who might not prescribe psychotropic drugs) or a psychiatrist to get a medication (or combination of medicines) that will work for you.

I tell people that I’m Southern and was raised by a Southern grandmother who had a PhD in worrying – and I’m not sure that I’d even exist if I ever stopped worrying. :)

Seriously, I’ve always been this way. I found a letter a boyfriend wrote me in 1975 that said, “I wish you’d stop worrying and take care of yourself better” – and THAT was when I was 21!

Please see a doctor and find out if you would be a good candidate for medication.

Holy crap in handbag Batman. Is there something wrong with this site?

Thanks. Just my relationship. I am actually a very calm person in general. Like seriously I’ve been in disaster situations before (at work and in other aspects of my life) where everyone was freaking out and I was the one stepping up and handling things. I have this ability to stay grounded while s**t hits the fan. I don’t worry that much. But I can get anxious over the occasional situation. Like if it’s very personal. This is the first time I’ve felt any real worry about this guy. Not so much that I can’t focus on other things or enjoy my time with me but I do think about it a bit. I don’t think it’s anything I NEED to worry about ATM and that I should relax because we are still early stages (exclusive but not super serious yet)… but one of those things that if it keeps happening I may have to cut my losses ya know? If this makes sense. I really don’t want to and I really like him but I can’t predict the future. It’s learning how to be ok with that future no matter what.

But yeah I’ve read some articles here and subscribed to the newsletter and one piece of advice stuck out to me. “Don’t care”. How does one do that? If you are dating someone then do not care about them? Why would you date people you don’t have any sort of feelings for?And therefore care about the possible outcome? Doesn’t mean you won’t accept it and are going to be a total mess but the alternative seems a bit sociopathic. Or am I reading it totally wrong?

Aha! I’ll remember language for next time. Thank you!