Help?

Im usually one to never ask for advice … im pretty good at not settling for less. But the guy im “talking” to now ive known for a few years. I was in a relationship and he always tried to be with me. Even when i got out of my relationship he always tried to contact me and be with me and take me out. I dodged him for a year or two. One day we were talking casually and he asked me if im finally going to give him a chance. So i did. I met him after work and we talked over dinner. It was casual and made me realize he wasnt a bad guy and we had so much in common…we both kind of said we didnt want a relationship right now. (He said he got out of one 8 months ago and i was still fresh 4-5 months out). As we starting talking i liked him more. He was so different but like the guy version of me. I would always make plans, stop by to see him and bring him food. One day he got distant i asked why he said it feels like i want a relationship. I said no i just like being around you. After a while i told him i wish hed take me out on an official date and try more and he said hell put more effort. I told him i want something in the end and if he cant give it to me im gone. One day he saw another guy txt me and he flipped out and said he cant trust me and this is why he cant be serious with me. All he does is say he doesnt want a relationship but he flips out if he knew i talked to other guys … its like he wants me to be loyal but wont put effort in to comitt. Even after he said the reason is because he knows im wife material and if he does put more effort hed be with me for a very long time and he respects me. Idk what to do anymore. Ive pulled back and been distant then he asks why im being distant and not txt or call him after a day or two? But he never puts in effort at all with actions. I want to walk away but i want him to realize as well as selfish as that sounds ….