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Aliya
We have been in a relationship for 1 year and a half. I’m really happy when with him because he really caring and always want to spend his time with me.
But, he always looks at others girls when we going out to make me to feels insecure and jealous. He also not ready to meet my mom and also didn’t say anything when I’m asking to meet his parents.
Sometimes I tried to ask him to get married. But he replied to me that we should not get married just for fun and sex only with laughing. And after he makes jokes he silent and holds me. Actually, it’s hurt my feelings when he doing like this.
I don’t know what he really thinks about us. Is he really serious with me or just for fun only.
Maddie
What about this is confusing? He says no this is casual, and his actions show the same as you’re not meeting each other’s families and he’s not worried when you feel insecure and uncomfortable with his behavior (looking at other women). This isn’t going anywhere and he believes you’ve accepted his terms because he already told you this isn’t going anywhere and you’ve made the choice to stay anyway. If you do not accept casual relationships, then you need to end this and find someone who wants the same things you do, which includes marriage eventually.
Erin
Aliya girl , stop pushing someone to marry you. If they haven’t done so yet, it means they don’t want to or they are not yet ready. Why are you in a hurry to get married anyway?
This just makes you look needy and desperate because you’re attaching your value to him to a marriage that is not even on the table yet
It will just give him more reasons to bail on you, on top of the ones he already has.
If a man refuses to meet your people and doesn’t want you to meet his people when you have been in a relationship for one and a half years, it means he’s still on the fence, he’s not serious.
Oh and men will always look at other women just like women will always look at other men even if y’all in a relationship, it’s natural.
However if he goes out of his way to check out other women, in a bid to get a reaction out of you, then he’s immature, just ignore those little games.
My advice is to keep your options open because he is too. Don’t bet all your horses on this guy.
A man who wants to remain in the shadows for this long, is a man who is planning a quick and painless exit in the future.
Give out the same energy you get. Don’t be too available to him. I feel you’re the one keeping this relationship running.
Here’s a thing, go for a week without initiating contact or initiating dates or hang outs and see if he puts in the effort.
Make yourself unavailable and see if he makes himself available to you without you initiating.
And don’t act like a wife, doing ‘wife’ things for him. Act like a girl whose time is important, has options and doesn’t settle for half as*ed efforts.
Lane
Huh? This guy is NOT going to marry you! A man who wants to marry you will be bring the topic up pretty early in the courting phase (first six months). You can throw small hints, such as if he asks if you’ll move in with him and you respond with “I won’t play wife, until I am a wife” and hold your ground. Or if they talk marriage, and then back track, you say “I refuse to be a forever GF” thereby standing your ground that this will end if no ring gets on your finger within a reasonable amount of time, your time, that is.
If you’re young you don’t have time to ‘play house’ without becoming a joint owner, with your husband on the deed. If a man didn’t bring up the marriage talk within six months, I wouldn’t take him seriously, and not be wasting years of my time on that one. Gotta be smarter choosing the right man to spend your time, and potentially life, with hun.
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