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Maddie.
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neverhadatan
Hi all, recently met a fellow divorced parent online. He texted me everyday, multiple times a day for a week leading up to meriting. He drove 3 hours to meet me, we hit it off, and had sex. I was horny, it’s been a while, he was hot, and drove all that way so I figured why not.
He text me a few hours after the hookup. It took a few hours for me to respond back to that text. Later that night, he text me at midnight while I was sleeping, and I did not text him back until 11am following day. So since this, he hasn’t reached out to me. I reached out after 7 days of silence, asked him how life is going, and he said “Good. Super busy week, you?” It took him 8 hours to respond, whereas before he would respond right away. I text him back “same same” and that was that. It’s been 24 hours and nothing else has been said.
I’m a big girl, I realize what’s going on. I was thinking of sending this text:
“Hey so I didn’t really go into this with any expectations other than having a new friend, but I didn’t go into this really looking for a hit and run either, especially at my age. It was nice meeting you, thank you for the fun, and I wish you all the best.” Maybe a smiley at the end.
Is this ok to send or should I not even bother?
Maddie
It’s not necessary to say anything since he’s already made it clear through his actions afterwards that he just wanted a hook up. But if you don’t say anything I’m sure you’ll hear from him again the next time he’s looking for some action. So saying something will preemptively shut that down if you aren’t comfortable just ignoring him if he pops back up.
I’m sure he already knows you’re not happy about a hook up if you hadn’t specified you wanted only that, most women aren’t. But at this age, just take away from the encounter that you had fun, and you’re too old to deal with his nonsense. It’s not on you to make him a respectful human being, it’s only on you to leave the situation if you feel he hasn’t been one! And be glad he showed you his character that quickly and didn’t waste a bunch of your time, even though the whole thing is undoubtedly annoying.
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