I don't know where my bf lives!

Don’t suggest. Tell him you want to visit your boyfriend’s house. Ask him to tell you when you will be able to do that. Get him to commit to a date. Done.

If he is your boyfriend, you should be able to ask about him about having an ex over. I like to have open communication. Just don’t get emotional or upset. And yes, he simply might like it better at your house. That’s what I thought when I first read your post. But the fact is, you want to see his house. It would be different if you didn’t care. So, since you want to see it, make plans to visit him.

This is a huge red flag. You need to insist that you go to his place. You can not have a relationship with a man that won’t even show you where he lives. Do you know his friends? If not, this is a secret relationship. The question is, why is it a secret.

However, you asked to see his place but you did not insist. Tell him that next time you are to be together you will go to his place, it’s not a negotiable option, he either agrees or he does not get to see you.

He might still be living with or in a relationship with a woman and you want to be sure he is letting you into his life, into his home, otherwise why share your body with him.

I’m a SUPER private person and have dated someone for even 6 months and haven’t had them over. My place is my world and unless I’m looking to make you a permanent part of my life, you won’t be seeing my place. I don’t even let dates pick me up from my place until I’ve known then minimum 2 or 3 months… So I do think it’s a bad sign that 9 months in, he’s not interested in introducing you to where he spends most of his time. It’s kind of a form of compartmentalization… keeping parts of your life seperate rather than blending them. No desire to blend isn’t good

Hi Everybody yes I’ve been introduced to his friends and have become facebook friends with only one. He has that we’re in a relationship on facebook and it’s him and I on his cover photo on fb so I wouldn’t consider us being a secret, however I just find it weird that he’s always here and I’m never there. And he’s become so isolated from his friends and social media at the start of our official relationship. Do you all think it’s because he doesn’t see this as a serious relationship or what? I mean why stay with me for 9 months and post our relationship on facebook, I don’t get it? So I’ll insist we get together at his place and if he agrees to let me come over a few times should I be less worried?

YOu need to ask him the questions you are asking here or you need to cut this guy loose. There is no need to date a man who refuses to invite you to his place at 9 months.

I don’t know where my bf live, but we go everywhere together holding hands n he kiss me alot around people, but I don’t know where he live and he so come to my home n spend a night for 1 day or 2, he had met all my family, I only met one of his bro in Casino, his mom in Texas, idk I feel that he hiding something from me, I bust his text a lady said when are you coming home, but he said that was his Aunt, and he said he don’t want to lose me, we texting alot everyday, and he said Ily imy everyday, I really don’t know what to do, I been i him for 10 months now. He aslo gets mad easy n hit my car and won’t clam down. Should I be worry or?

He hit my car caz he piss that I don listen, but I try to have my right to know where he live he won tell me, I take care of him Everytime he broke from casino, but he keep saying he love me and he have a mess up life and he is sorry that he hit my car no damage hut yeah he hit my car hard. I’m having hard time to believe him but trying to trust him, he said it will be better,idk it hard for me

He hit your car, has refused to tell you where he lives and uses you for money when he’s got no money. He’s a loser. Dump him.

What more do you need to know? Why are you putting up with this?!

If he’d damaged your car, you wouldn’t even be able to claim against him as you don’t know where he lives! The same if he hurts you.

So? How did this end?

OMG…You’ve come back after 2 years to give us an update… It’s a Christmas Miracle!!

So Ive been seeing my boyfriend for almost 3 years (3 years in january). I have never been to his house. All i know is the town he lives in. He always comes to my house. He is around my son everytime. I only just went to his mums but when noone was home. Ive never met his family. He is a very private person as he says. He has a child from previous relationship hasnt been with childs mother for very long time. Hes now been saying he wants to have a baby with me but i have no idea where he lives. He says hes aunty is living with him and he doesnt want his aunt to meet me before his mum does. I know its his house because I met him when he just bought it. Now before we became serious and official i Obviously wasnt committed to no one so i was seeing other people keeping my options open after just coming out of a bad relationship. He found out i also was talking to other people, to be honest the only reason i still spoke to another guy was because i didnt think he was all that serious. Anyways when he found out he wanted to end it. But i told him i will stop seeing the other guy and we can make it official. Its been a over year now and we have moved pass it all. But i still dont know where he lives. Dont know his family. I just think what does this mean. Its so confusing. He answer is always take one day at a time. Apart from that his a really great person. We get on really well. Doesnt even give me a reason to question. What made me write on he is because i find that sometimes when he is home he doesnt answer my call and comes off the on phone quickly in mid convo…. AM I GOING MAD!?????