He doesn't verbalize his feelings for me

That’s not fair to your boyfriend to compare what happened to your sister.

You don’t know all the details of their relationship and you never will, only the people in it know everything.

Some people are not vocal but, show you in actions how they feel. I understand hearing it sometimes is nice. 8 months is still early on so give it time for him. Men aren’t so vocal about feelings.

Lastly, I think you keep expressing your feelings in hope he’ll do the same, stop doing that. Let him express himself in his own time.

Yes you should be concerned. Any man I’ve ever dated has told me long before 8 months how he feels. If he can’t verbalize he could write it in a card or something. I would flat out tell him it hurt your feelings when you tell him things like you’re falling in love or how much you care about him and he can’t share his feelings back. That’s not normal. But it is how guys like your sister’s ex get by with saying, he was never serious because he never told her he loved her. At some point you should get the hint. I couldn’t be with a man who couldn’t tell me how he felt.

I’m not an insecure person either. So when I communicated to him my feelings and he is unable to reciprocate twice, and seeing how my twin went through the same thing, to me it’s a yellow flag. He has told me he missed me when I went on a trip two weeks ago. So that’s something. However, I feel that if he say can, “I miss you” wouldn’t he be able to say how he feels if he does love me?

I wouldn’t be able to stop myself. 8 months is a long time. In a quiet moment I would probably say — “So I’ve used the Love word a couple of times with you. And I think it’s how I’m beginning to feel! Im not asking you to say anything you’re not ready to say —but I’m wondering if we’re close to the same page?” Or something similar to that.

I wouldn’t be able to hold it in. You can’t say the completely wrong thing to the RIGHT GUY. Its all just communication. I would want to know I was headed in the same direction.

I’m feeling mixed here. A part of me feels concerned another part of me thinks I shouldn’t worry and just go with the flow.

Over the weekend I went camping with his family. His sisters and baby nieces tell me my bf talks a lot about me with them. Early in the morning he wakes up early to walk far in the cold weather to the general store just to get me a cup of coffee. On the Saturday we arrive to the camp site we go to the general store and I point to a coffee mug that I causally mentioned that my mom would like. Yesterday morning, when he went to buy my morning coffee, he buys it for my mom.

I feel like he could be one of those men who shows his love through actions instead of saying it. However, I feel like you guys are right that at 8 months he should be able to tell me. I don’t know. I feel confused.

I agree with Hannah. If you’re feeling mixed emotions then let him know. Tell him what a great time you had on the camping trip and how close you felt to his family and how sweet he was to get your coffee every morning. And that you appreciate all the things he does to show he cares but you’re just confused as to why he’s never told you how he feels about you. Then let him talk and really listen to what he says.

It’s totally different for him to be talking about you all the time with them and for him to be telling them he’s in love with you and sees a future with you. For example, DJ and I went to the movies to see the Avengers and it was a really great movie. DJ likes this kind of coffee, this is DJ’s favorite song….VS. DJ is so special and I can’t stop thinking about her. I just can’t stop smiling when I’m around DJ. I’ve never had the feelings like I have when I’m around her. I really think she could be the one.

My mother in law knew her son was going to ask me to marry him before I ever did! And a lot of his friends knew too. I promise if his sisters and little nieces had a hint how he felt you would know. Especially little girls who can’t seem to not talk about boys liking girls! My own little brother blabbed stuff to my first husband I had said!! You don’t need to just sit back and waste your time if he’s not feeling it.

His actions are showing he loves you. You are very lucky. He will tell you he loves you son.

Would you rather have a man who says he loves you but treats you bad?

Be patient, he will.

You have a great boyfriend, appreciate him and enjoy

This is too long IMO. A man knows when he’s in love or not. Sure he may have experienced the infatuation kind, but love is feeling of attachment; he wants to be around you a lot, only wants to be with you and starts planning a future with you in it.

How old are the two of you? How does he act around his family? Have you ever heard him say “I love you” to his mom or family members?” Those words are HUGE for a man—he is essentially telling you that your the one he wants to build a future with. If a man isn’t talking about a future with you, not vacations or spending time with family/friends; but how many kids he wants, the type of house you’ll buy together (will point it out as you drive by) then he’s not envisioning that with you.

At this juncture, 8 months in, there should be some forward movement and progression towards the ultimate goal of marriage and creating a family together. Discussions should be taking place in order to build the foundation and then negotiate, discuss and converse on important subjects such any issues your having now, parenting styles, financial goals, roles (cooking, taking out the trash, cleaning), sexual compatibility, etc. because if you DISAGREE more than you agree on a number of topics/subjects then your going to have a very rocky relationship which is what the courtship process is truly about—how well do you really gel when it comes to important matters.

You’ve hit a major roadblock. This is something that needs to be worked out or it would be futile to proceed if your not on the same page or progressing towards the same goal.