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September 20, 2021 at 4:19 pm #919971
So I met a guy from Tinder and we had a good time on our first date. He seems shy to me at first but he did some teasing and flirting later on. When we got to a bar, he asked if I wanted to go to his place and watch Netflix. I declined but he acted like nothing happened and recommended me some good TV shows. He then texted me the next day saying hope I enjoyed dinner and good luck with my new job. I thanked him but then realized he had unmatched me on Tinder. I am just so confused but I know for sure he is a playboy and is probably just looking for sex. But still I don’t get it. What do you guys think?September 20, 2021 at 4:54 pm #919981
“I am just so confused but I know for sure he is a playboy and is probably just looking for sex.”
Elaine, really?? You already answered your own question. There’s nothing not to “get.” He tried to get you to his place to have sex with you, you didn’t go for it, he’s moved on to the next prospects. It’s not about you, you did nothing wrong. You were smart enough to peg him and not fall for it. That’s a win. Forget him.September 20, 2021 at 5:19 pm #919993
Thanks AngieBaby for your comment. I totally agree with you. I just feel like guys are so confusing and I mean you did not have to text me after our first date if you think you are not going to see me anymore. I am starting to believe people when they say it is impossible to find good guys on Tinder. All of them are just looking for hook-ups anyways :(September 20, 2021 at 5:50 pm #920005
You turned his invitation for sex down… He’s on to his next conquest.September 20, 2021 at 7:36 pm #920032
I wouldn’t go as far as to say all guys on Tinder are looking for hook ups or casual dating but it has a reputation for hook ups for a reason. If you are looking to seriously date then there are other apps that I found reaped better dates – Bumble and Hinge for a start but if I am serious about dating I would use a paid for site. Its not an exact science but if someone if serious enough to pay they are less likely to be looking for just a hook up.
You were smart to turn down his Netflix and chill offer and dodged a bullet as your goals were not aligned so its better you didn’t waste any more time.
The only thing I’d add is that if you’ve exchanged numbers then quite a lot of guys do unmatch – probably bc these apps are quite stalker like and you can see their location.