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    I have been talking to this man for almost 3 months but haven’t met him because he has been having flare up and pains ever since he had Covid 2 years ago, which has been a chronic issue. He says he is waiting for a day where he doesn’t feel sickly and actually strong enough to have an actual date. our conversations are great, video chats and calls me almost everyday for 2 hours at a time. We also text frequently during the day as well. As much as I like him, I don’t know how more emotionally invested I can get into this if we don’t ever meet. Please give me some advice!


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    O emotional investment. That is the answer. Anyone you are not seeing in person is not a real relationship. If he can have two hour convos he can meet you.

    This is what you say: bob, I am at a place in my life where I am looking for the real deal. That means creating a life together with the right person. Unfortunately, while I am understanding of your illness, I am unable to continue interacting with you without meeting or growing into the next phase. I wish you the best in your recovery and dating.

    Any response less than … I will make it work is to be taken as a no.

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    I agree with Tallspicy. If he is so unhealthy right now, he should not even have started “dating”, engaging with people. He is wasting your time. Her script was perfect. Plus know that if you do meet him, you could find any relationship impacted by his health problems.

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    Amy S

    Has this guy been off work for 2 years ?

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    Liz Lemon

    I agree with the other posters. How is this guy supporting himself if he’s so ill that he can’t leave the house for a coffee date? And if he IS in such poor health that he can’t leave the house, he’s not in a position to date at all.

    Dating apps and websites are full of people who will waste your time texting and chatting on the phone/video calls, but will never meet you. They don’t want the effort of a real relationship. They prefer a fantasy. They create false intimacy by texting and calling constantly, but you don’t really know them until you meet them in person and have real-life interactions with them. If this guy is unwilling to meet you in person, you should write him off.

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    We already started to respond on another thread. Please stay there

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    Thanks for all the advice, I eventually broke it off with him

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