Not texting much in between dates

I’d stay away from this one because of the recent break up.
Why date someone you suspect isn’t over their ex? Its a waste of your time.

How long were he and his ex together? What makes you think he’s not over her? If they were together for years then yeah, 4 months isn’t enough time to get over it. But if they were dating, like, a year or less, 4 months might be sufficient to process the breakup. But if he’s given you reason to think he’s not over it, that’s very significant.

To answer your question (separate from the “not over his ex” bit): some guys are just not big into texting. Also, it’s early still, you’ve only been dating a couple weeks. So if things continue and get deeper, he might start texting more. Does he not initiate texts at all, or not reply when you text him? Do you ever talk on the phone? The important thing is that he’s making effort to see you in person and you’re enjoying the dates. Some guys text all day long and never cement plans to actually get together (there are plenty of threads on this board about that). So the fact that you’ve had 4 dates in 2 weeks, and that he is initiating the dates, is great. That’s more important than texting.

no texts and no calls?

He’s not ready, internally he’s a mess, and you’re a temporary distraction. He’s not ready to go deeper, you’re just boosting his shattered ego, by letting him know he’s still attractive to the opposite sex but its a shallow and temporary phase that lasts about four to six months. Men take longer as they are good at stuffing their feelings down, which is why they APPEAR to be normal but inside they are mess. It will eventually all come bubbling to the surface which is when they go into the ‘freedom mode’ and will remain single for quite awhile.

They will do random hookups but that’s all its going to be until they reach the stage of ‘indifference.’ This is when the feelings for an ex become neutral (no longer battling with strong emotions) and rarely think of them. Until then they are not ready to give their heart or enter into another relationship, at least one that has a shot of making it long-term.

Do not sleep with him!!! The moment you do he’ll say “I’m not ready for anything serious” which is code for “I’m only looking for temporary companionship right now as my heart and mind’s a battleground right now.” Just know they don’t intentionally set out to hurt women, its that they are internally hurting to the point they lack empathy and emotions for others because their heart and mind is in turmoil. Just know he most likely doesn’t have the capacity to give you something he doesn’t have to give, such as his heart, because his ex still has it and will take awhile for it to be repaired enough for another to be able to enter. Think of his heart like a bucket of broken glass full of his ex—all you’re going to do is get hurt (bloody) if you try to get near or enter it.

Initially I thought I would give him a chance, but if he talks about an ex on dates to a woman that he hardly knows, this is pretty obvious. I think I would make him a favor of telling that you cannot date anymore because he’s clearly not ready for that.

Yeah i agree with most posters and from what you wrote that he is not over his ex and probably hoping she will come to her senses again with the ex.
If its not difficult for you to stop seeing him i would send him a message that you feel he is not over his ex and that you think he needs time to figure it out but that makes it difficult for you to keep on dating him. At least that gives him a signal about how he is coming across and he might appreciate your honesty