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October 21, 2019 at 8:56 am #775865
Is it normal for guys to still remain hard after sex? This happened to me for the first time and I’m wondering if this is normal or was he not satisfied? I am so confused.October 21, 2019 at 9:11 am #775866
Better off single
Why question it? Why would you not be thrilled about that and go for another round?October 21, 2019 at 9:24 am #775868
I’m with ‘Better off single’! This has happened before to me and is not an issue. If he came and seems satisfied, don’t question it. Can always give it another go. My ex stayed hard after sex but said he was too sensitive for a while afterwards which I took as a win :) don’t stress perfectly normal!October 21, 2019 at 9:50 am #775871
Yes, its normal. The area is simply filled with blood and it sometimes doesn’t drain out right away. Its nothing to do with the partner.October 21, 2019 at 10:07 am #775873
We are just strangers and can only speculate. You need to ask the hardness this question yourself. Don’t send a text. Do it face to face.October 21, 2019 at 10:14 am #775874
You don’t need to ask, I’ve already explained it.October 21, 2019 at 10:18 am #775875
I saw your explanation. But she should still have a head-to-head to get to the truth.October 21, 2019 at 10:27 am #775876
Agree with both Dangerouse and Anderson. It’s normal, it can happen. But you should also communicate with him about it. This happens with my current partner- he stays quite hard for a long time after “finishing” (lucky me, haha) and I had never seen it before, so of course I asked him about it the first time it happened. It’s a (very) pleasant joke between us now.
This is the kind of thing you need to be comfortable talking about if you’re going to be sexually active with someone.October 21, 2019 at 10:39 am #775877
Do you think he will get upset about me asking about it? Should I ignore it and wait until next time?October 21, 2019 at 10:45 am #775878
I was actually just being childish and making subtle sexual innuendos, lol.
But Liz’s last line is spot on. Sex is not just about the act but also communicating your curiosities about it. It actually builds intimacy. It’s sad how many people are afraid to ask the innocent questions with the person they’re sleeping with.October 21, 2019 at 11:29 am #775883
I can’t imagine why he’d be upset if you asked? My boyfriend is quite proud of it :-)
But Anderson is right. You need to be comfortable communicating about sex. It’s more than just the physical act. Especially in a relationship, but even if it’s just a FWB, you need to be able to talk about it.October 21, 2019 at 4:11 pm #775911
Do you think a guy would lie and say he enjoyed it if he didn’t? I’m not sure how to bring up the subject to him.October 22, 2019 at 10:53 am #775949
Anyone?October 22, 2019 at 11:18 am #775950
You seem really insecure about this. Do you think he didn’t enjoy it? What makes you ask the question?
To be blunt, if he came, then I’m sure he enjoyed it.October 22, 2019 at 2:14 pm #775964
This question reminded me of a story of women hiring male escorts and a lot of them were actually more concerned if the escort was satisfied.
But in this case, why worry so much? First time sex can be awkward. It takes a while to feel each other right. If he comes back for more, you have your answerOctober 22, 2019 at 11:57 pm #776010
If he came and you saw it yes it’s completely normal. If he didn’t and you know he didn’t cum then no.