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Adam
Preface: If she were not a co-worker I would have already made my move. I am well aware of the risks that come with dating someone you work with. This is why I believe it is crucial to be as certain as possible before doing anything. Also I’m not completely happy with my work environment. This job has a very high turnover rate. So it is unlikely that either of us would be there for any significant period of time.
The job:kennel at an Animal Hospital
The signs. She is always finding ways to be around me. Always calling for my help by name. Usually with something she could have easily done on her own by the time I get over to her. She loves to poke fun at me and give me a hard time. Lately she has been making an effort to touch me and every time she does I don’t pull away instead I wait to see how long she will let it linger. Just the other week I wasn’t watching what I was doing and spun around quickly and bumped into her instinctively my hands went to her waist to catch her and to my surprise she didn’t jump back. Next week she is taking a couple days of for her birthday. Yesterday I jokingly said “it’s to bad I can’t bring you lunch for your birthday” she loves chick fil a and is always eating mine when I bring it. Anyways. Her reply to me was “Well don’t you get an hour for lunch.” Was that an invitation? If so should I ask her to meet me for lunch?
Emma
She clearly likes you and throws very heavy hints at you. If you do not make a move, she’d feel rejected. Ask her out for lunch and then tell her that if you were not co-workers you would have asked her out already. And take it from there. Maybe you two would agree to wait until you leave your jobs.
Stephen
Adam,you made a mistake asking for advice here. The women will insist that you bend over backwards to accommodate this woman and her every whim and if it all goes wrong, which it could very easily do,you will be the one shown the door not her.
Just think what will happen if she decides that you are not accomodating her every caprice and decides to punish you by claiming you sexually harassed her? Do you realise that most businesses won’t even ask for your side of the story as it is easier just to fire the man rather than risk a lawsuit? How will you explain why you were fired from your last job to potential employers?Potential employer:’I see that you were fired from your last job. How did that come about?’
Adam:’Well a female colleague shamelessly flirted with me. We started dating but she decided that she could do better. So to save face she claimed that I sexually harassed her which was absolutely untrue. If anything she sexually harassed me!’
Potential Employer:’NEXT!!!’In the present climate it is career suicide to get involved with female colleagues! I strongly recommend you immediately adopt the Pence Rule and NEVER be alone with this woman or any other woman at work. If she gets you fired you’ll be lucky to get a part-time job cleaning toilets!
Ok
Or you could end up happily married to this woman, graduate and become a veterinarian, have a beautiful family and not have to troll a woman’s forum like Stephen all day long making nasty bitter comments about how unhappy he is and how he wants to be a woman.
Stephen
I am not the slightest bit unhappy! I live an idyllic life. I work from home and I can in most cases work as little or as much as I like. I am getting closer each year to becoming a millionaire. Technically I am at present a paper millionaire.
L
Just goes to show , money doesn’t buy happiness. But at least Stephen can buy that new 30 thousand dollar female sexbot he’s always wanted.
Lane
She likes you! I agree that dating a co-worker however is a very very bad idea! I would get to know her though, take her out to ‘lunch’ and let her know you like her but because you work together its not smart to date but would like to get to know her better as a person, like you would any other co-worker, acquaintance, neighbor, etc.
If it EVOLVES from there, want to try and pursue a relationship together then I highly suggest you seek out a different job, or minimum an opposing shift/schedule because if it goes south its going to really suck having to work together—the water cooler fodder and being in each others presence will make you both miserable!
Good luck as this is how I met my (now ex) husband—just getting to know each other as friends would (no romance although I knew he had a crush on me) over the course of a few months before I gave him a shot and we started officially dating (became BF/GF). Although we worked for the same employer (military) we didn’t work with each other so if it went south it wouldn’t have been an issue. I’ve had a no-work dating policy for over 35+ years as I’ve seen all of them go south. many in a very bad way, which is why I refused to engage in it—keep your work and romantic life separate!
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