Is he trying to make me Jealous?

Best thing to do is to not care. When you hear it and he’s looking at you, do a big eye roll as “your so lame’ and then walk away.

It up to the OP decide that, not you. That’s the beauty of this forum where the OP gets to decide what advice she wants to accept or not. I don’t see that you provided anything other than blaming and shaming the OP for making a mistake she’s learned the hard way and now trying to deal with the aftermath with an immature man who can’t stop blabbing on and on about women in a work environment.

If the eye-roll doesn’t work then she should send him a stern e-mail that talking about his female conquests would be better served in a bar with a beer not the the workplace as its distracting her from her work and he please stop or she will be forced to bring it up to their supervisor or HR. If he doesn’t stop she will need to tape the convo’s he’s having with his co-workers about all these females with a copy of e-mail if he continues to act unprofessionally. That however should be a last ditch effort if the eye-roll doesn’t work.

Guys talk about women and sex. It’s what they do! Are you really expecting him to change his behavior in front of you because he slept with you once? Would it make you feel better if he just stopped talking and got silent until you passed by and were out of earshot? You admit you talked about sex with this guy multiple times before it happened, is he just supposed to stop talking about it now? As some of the others had said, this is a lesson learned. Don’t have casual sex with someone you work with and you won’t have to worry about it being awkward!

Thanks Stephen!

I try to impart help that has either worked well for me or hasn’t worked for others because they are in the ‘thick of it’ and can’t see how they themselves are or have contributed to their problem and do try to impart a solution or get them to see the ‘other side of the coin’ (the man’s POV) or full picture so they will either make some changes or keep doing the same thing over and over and over….

The OP knows she’s made a major mistake and sounds like’s she learned from it but he feels compelled to intentionally keep throwing salt on the wound and it’s creating a lot of discomfort for her and shouldn’t have to continue to subjected to it at work and does need to do something to at least try to mitigate and stop it going forward.

I too have been annoyed by these conversations in the workplace when I’m trying to get my work done and you can’t focus because of it. However I’m a very blunt and direct person so I will go up to them and say “hey, the breakroom is around the corner so if you want to continue this conversation can you please take it there as I really need to get this done” and that in most cases does the trick and the conversation ends. I do not tolerate this in my business as its unprofessional, breeds discomfort from those who don’t like or want to hear it while at work and it opens companies up to lawsuits if it’s not nipped it in the bud especially with today’s no sexual harassment (key word) tolerance mindset. He might as well hang some nudes or hot chicks on his wall, desk or computer background because talking about women the way he does in ear shot of other employee’s is just as inappropriate and unprofessional IMO and best to be had at a bar on your non paid work time.

Escalating this personal matter to HR is a horrendous idea!
* rolls eyes *

You will regret it if you go to HR with this personal matter, especially since since was involved. Not good advice.

Can you put in a set of earbuds and listen to some music while you work?

Don’t reward this guy by giving him any sort of reaction. No eye roll or anything else like it. Revoke his permission to get your goat. He can’t keep this up forever. He can’t make you jealous if you don’t care any longer what he does!

Why do they do this? Because some men love the feeling of the chase and then the conquest, and when they feel they have you, they’re done.

Either he’s just doing what he does and has no idea you’re listening or how it’s coming across – or he’s doing it on purpose to see if you react or to make you want him and come after him again. It’s that simple. Men are simple. When you understand that, you stop asking questions like is he trying to make me jealous. Also, you’re getting the responses you’re getting because the fact that you’re here asking shows you care, a lot.

I’m sorry your thread was one that has been recently hijacked. Thank you for coming back and clearing this up as it wasn’t really clear from your last paragraph as to what you wanted as it sounded like you were tired of him talking about ‘girl after girl after girl” at work and it being tacky (which I agree with BTW) so I responded the way I did as a way to potentially get him to stop if it bugged you so much….then it went off the rails sadly.

Men (and women) do things like this because it feels good to them or get some form of pleasure from it. Why are braggers bragers? Why are liars liars? Why are cleptos cleptos? Its the age old question of those who don’t engage in or have those compulsions ask of those who do.

Most men that I know of who engaged in it as a teenager/young adult grew out of but some never do and that’s the only answer I can provide to your question based on my personal observations of most who don’t and the occasional one or two who do. I’ve seen guy’s disassociate themselves (stop engaging) with those who do, even so far as getting up and walking away, so its not just women who find it to be tactless behavior. Unfortunately due to your association and not wanting to make any waves, you’re just going to have to do the ‘eye roll’ behind his back or in person if the compulsion to do so arises until he either grows out of it; his work buddy(s) start to avoid him or those conversations; or someone else (another employee or higher up) finds it to be just as tactless as you do and shuts it down.