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Kareena
Basically I have been talking with this guy for a while.. I’m 19 and he’s 22. Lately I’ve noticed he hasnt been consistently returning my phone calls or texts… so I decided to ask him if he has been talking with someone else and he said no… yet he’s always up talking late at night on whatsapp at like 3-4 in the morning… so I told him that if hes talking to someone else to tell me because I really dobt want to fall for him and end up getting hurt… he has not replied .. so is he?
Khadija
Hello Kareena,
Well you are only talking to him.
Why can’t he talk to someone else?
Have you two decided to be exclusive?
And what exactly is talking? Does that mean you go on dates and such?
I remember in high school we used this term and it simply meant just talking and an occasional hang out. Has that changed?Kareena
Hi Khadija,
We both have hung out at times like went to the movies and hung out by each other. We kissed aswell. We havent spoken about being exclusive but his actions when around me shows interest aswell as he also told me he liked me … but im just so confused now..Pollyanne
Sorry to say, but you sound paranoid and like you don’t trust him. I bet that is why he hasn’t replied. Also, what I have learned is if you are asking him if he is talking to others, than you are giving him the vibe that you are not talking to anyone else – which is fine if you two are exclusively seeing each other – but if you are not, you kind of showed your hand too early.. he should be the one wondering what you are up to!
Khadija
How long have you two been seeing each other?
In the past I’ve asked a man if he was seeing others and it just didn’t go well.
I agree with Pollyanne it showed my hand and he didn’t have to wonder anymore.
If he is not boyfriend, he’s free to do as he pleases.
I understand you don’t want to fall for him but, you can’t expect him to not date around.
You two are very young and this is the time to explore and meet people.
I say continue to get to know him and let him show you that he is worth any of your energy.
He should be asking you out and keeping in contact if he is interested in being exclusive with you.
WORDS+ACTIONS= TRUTH….keep that in mind.patsytshirt
why are you stalking his online activity? 3am 4am for real? obviously he might be talking to another girl, probably sexting before sleeping or he could just be talking to a friend because he was bored and had insomnia. But this is not the issue, he is not your boyfriend yet and not your husband, so if he wants to whatsapp all day and talk to other people and not talk to you, there is nothing you can do. He probably thinks now that you are a stalker and is acting girlfriendish, I don’t think he will reply to you, if he does it will be to say that it won’t work between you two.
Ashley
Most likely yes he’s talking to other females. A guy especially that age isn’t going to “rat himself out” and say yes I’m talking to other girls because then it would be drama. You two are very young & the majority of guys at age 22 are not looking for anything serious, they’re looking for as many hookups as possible, so be careful with getting attached to someone who is not your boyfriend. When a guy wants you to be exclusive they make it very obvious because they want you all to themselves. Honestly the fact you questioned him about it will make him feel you are more into him than he is into you which pushes men away & he will fear dating you will cause him to be losing his freedom & probably will not want to continue with you because when you question guys especially young guys it’s like smothering/nagging which is the last thing they want from a girl. Plus he will think you are monitoring him online which is a turn off to guys at any age. So take a few steps back & keep busy don’t monitor what he’s doing because it sends off vibes the guys can feel. Keep busy & don’t text him
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