Is he gonna ask me out?

Chill, he will most likely. It has been only 2 days, and he has been in touch.

I don’t think the poster is too keen, she is just interested in him. I think Ewa you are drawing way too harsh conclusions way too quick – it has been 2 days since the date after all…..
the poster does not say anywhere that she isn’t keeping her options open at all.

Hi Clara,
You don’t look too keen to me, and I don’t think you have anything to worry about either. Regarding the fact that we are in 2020, I’d say that you’re allowed to ask him out yourself, as a girl, and maybe he is even waiting for that. I don’t think it would seem too eager.
All the best

I also agree that you are too keen and overly invested in a man you barely know. This is evident by you writing in about a guy you’ve been on one date with and monitoring how often you’re talking to him and wondering aloud if he’ll ask you out. It’s great to be excited that a date went well – but healthy women understand that in dating – men come and go and it’s for YOUR OWN mental health and self love to not care about men until they are your boyfriend. Have crushes? Yes. Have butterflies and be happy to hear from them? Not only is it fruitless to try and predict their movements it actually hurts your chances with progressing the relationship. (Even though you don’t even know this person, his character, his habits and know if you would want to have a relationship…) The reason it can interfere is because most of communication is non verbal. And men can smell desperate women, or women who don’t vet them properly, ones over the moon too soon – from a mile away and it turns them off. Healthy, high quality men are drawn to confident women because men value freedom and respect above all else. It’s hard for them to fall for you if they feel you’re overly invested too soon because they will feel trapped and not respect you don’t live your own life.

Your most important job with dating is being in the receiving mode while cultivating your wonderful life by dating yourself first and foremost. It takes PRACTICE not to care because we live in a society saturated in teaching women they are the most worthy when they are desired by a man. Live your life! Be happy! Watch a man’s actions. Let HIM lead. Don’t initiate. Actions and words have to line up for it to be real. And the man meant for you will be feel EASY and you won’t have to make predictions.

*him

My rule of thumb is asking for a second date within 7 days. If you waited 7 days and there is no sign of him planning to see you again – forget it.

The only thing a woman can do in this situation is WAIT to see if he’ll plan another one or not, within a few days. The quicker they ask you out again, then you know that, at a minimum, you are at the forefront of their mind. If not, its OK because its life way of saying “your not the right match for each other.”

DO NOT get caught up in the ‘text trap’ with a man you just met. That’s LAZY, cheap and easy to do, whereas taking a woman out to impress her because he’s impressed with you is the best route to take in dating.

If he doesn’t plan another tell yourself “SO WHAT, BIG WHOOP, NO LOSS because there are plenty of guys out there who will put in a lot of effort to impress the heck out of me!” Trust me, I’m so glad a lot of them didn’t call back because it freed me up to meet a man who loved and adored me :o)

This dating mindset makes it sooo much easier when THE MAN goes above-and-beyond to prove to you what a great BF he would make! Those are the best relationships.