Feel so dumb

I have been with my bf for a year now and things are decent. I just feel like an option at this point when it comes to the child’s mother. He can’t even pick up my call when she is around. It’s pretty much like I am a big secret. I get to keep peace with the kid but I would think we are all from in late 30’s and it could be handled. When she FaceTimed him while I was there and his son was at his house his son tried to take the phone and talk to her but my bf grabbed it back. Now normally he would give his son his phone to talk to his mom. But when I was there he made sure I was not shown in the background. It’s just so awkward to have to basically hide. I had to hold my cough in so she wouldn’t hear. The mom is the complete opposite of me I’m quiet and real chill laid back. She is a little in the ratchet side and loud. I’m at the point where I don’t care if I’m hiden I just given up really. I feel like I am the absolute last option on his list. I already know the child comes before me of course but he puts so much before me it’s crazy.
I do so much for this man. I’m always always there for him I include him in my family outings he has met everyone and continue to met more people. I’ve met his mom once and I’ve never seen her ever since I’ve never met a friend nor anyone else. I’ve tried to go places with him but he never initiates or plans anything he just waits for me to do it and when I do it’s an excuse on why he can’t. He has his kid, he doesn’t have money, this that blah blah blah. I never asked him to pay for anything I take care of it. I know I’m dumb but I give the man money for bills, I support him, make sure he eats and bring him food to work that I cooked. He knows I’m simple and I don’t require a lot but I can’t get anything. I can’t afford to help pay his bills and mine with the other people in my family I have on my back to help too PLUS pay for the small dates I ask for like arcades, game night, movies, picnic, mini golf things like that. All we do is be at his house and watch tv which is cool but that’s literally it that’s all we do. When he lost his job I was there to pay for it all. Within the last 3 months he has gotten 2k from me and I get nothing