Does he have a point? Is he just moody? Or are we both to blame?

My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and a half. I’m a teacher and got a job closer to his apartment for next fall because we wanted to move in together. My bf quit his job in November when he wanted to of his own accord since he was no longer happy in it and wanted more time to have a life since it was very long hours. Because the job he was in paid a lot/he saved a lot of money from it, he has been able to live a long time without another job and could live on that money for a lot longer. He’s been home since December and we have basically been living together since the end of March. He’s being a picky about his next job and hasn’t asked me for any money. I only point this out because it’s relevant to what I’m about to say.

He’s never lived with a woman before (I’ve lived with a couple of exes) so I’m not sure if that’s a big factor here. I’ll admit that since he’s been home I’ve relied on him for certain things. He likes to cook and is good at it, so he does the large majority of the cooking. Also the last few months of my school year was more stressful than usual (my mom had multiple hospital stays which is not typical and I was getting in trouble for my attendance at work) and I was just trying to get through it. He’s not what I’d call a picky eater by default but sometimes when I approach him with meal ideas he turns his nose up at them. Example: How about I make fettuccine Alfredo? “Im not big on pasta a lot of empty calories”. He’s also been on a big fitness kick..going to the gym pretty much every day since I moved in as well. I go most days with him and think it’s good overall, but he eats bad when he wants (drinks at least 2 cans of beer every night for example) which doesn’t offend me because it’s about the bigger picture..my point is don’t be saying I’ll eat anything you fix if that’s not the case. He never suggests recipes to cook (I’m trying to cook different things for variety) and it seems an issue to try to even find something he’ll like. Example 2: I offer to fix a strawberry walnut salad which is healthy and I’ve never made before but eaten from places, he says I don’t know if that will be filling enough. It just seems like he’s nitpicking. I think it’s natural that while I was working and he was at home that he was doing more of the work at home because he was home 8-10 hours more than me. I feel like Ive tried to pick up the slack this summer even though I’ve been pot of the house more than he has and have been helping my mom out with her job search and her house. Sometimes I try to help him or offer to bring him a beer and he says he’s fine. I do as much or more laundry and dishes. But I feel very frustrated tonight as I feel like he was very hard on me about something small. I have had a migraine all day. I missed my new hire orientation for my new school district (it was fine to reschedule), but I was home all day in bed. I asked if he’d pick up some fast food for me since not much was sounding good and he did and seemed fine with doing so. I have done the same kind of thing for him when he was sick and would be happy to go that any time. Tonight when we were in bed I mentioned I was frustrated that the phone cord slid behind my dresser. We live in a small apartment and my dresser functions as my nightstand and although it isn’t the heaviest one to move it doesn’t feel great to move it when your neck or head is hurting…it’s annoying on a good night. Now I admit I should have just asked for help nicely if I wanted it, but he chimed in right away that I could move it if I wanted to. I mentioned I wasn’t feeling good, but he was just kind of a jerk about that he does it for me a lot. That I should do more things on my own. I can take a bit of that as constructive but at the same time why is it that big of a resentment to help someone for something small? Like I get not waking him up to do it..but he’d been up and down to go to the bathroom and get himself a snack and we were watching a movie that neither one of us had that much interest in. I guess I just would like some feedback on the situation. We get along pretty well for the most part and I am still taking time to go see my mom and friends even though we are together a lot. He’s more of a lone wolf and I think he’s socializing less with his guy friends because he doesn’t have another job yet.