Cooparenting is this weird ?

I don’t quite understand. You’ve been dating 6 months, since May, hasn’t he spent the night at yours yet? Why would he think it weird to stay with you? I don’t see why that miscommunication even happened. You could have just said, “of course you can stay at mine”.

And he and his ex hate each other, but are staying together in his house? That doesn’t add up, to me. It’s good that they work out their issues, but it’s quite intimate to stay in someone’s home. Maybe he’s exaggerated how much they hate each other?

I’d be uncomfortable with this, honestly, just because I don’t quite understand what’s going on. The situation doesnt add up.

He could have offered to pay for a hotel for his daughter’s mother if anything, so that she could see her. But to have his ex stay in his home is a bit much (even if she is visiting their daughter).

It’s unusual for a mother not to get custody. Courts almost always give custody to the mother, unless she’s unfit somehow. Especially if the child would rather live with the mother, as you say. Do you know the circumstances behind the custody decision?

There’s nothing you can do about the situation now. I don’t blame you for being uncomfortable however. I wouldn’t like it if I were in your shoes. Yes, I understand it’s for the child’s sake, but it’s recreating a family dynamic that no longer exists (and honestly may be unfair to the child, what if they play happy family for the weekend and it gives her hope that her parents will get back together?).

I don’t necessarily think there’s any funny business going on, you say tbe mother is partnered so I assume she’s not trying to get back with her ex. (Never mind that they dislike each other, my bf had a very bitter divorce and he and his ex still dislike each other strongly– nevertheless when I met him 5 years ago, she was trying to convince him to reconcile– it happens). I’m not saying that’s happening in your case. I just wouldn’t be comfortable with the situation for the reasons I stated. I still think it would have been more appropriate for the dad to offer to get a hotel for the mom for the weekend, although I understand that costs money.

You posted about this guy earlier this year right? I remember the teenage daughter, boarding school, ex wife not having custody & the parents not getting along.

As i said earlier, there’s nothing you can do about this particular situation, what’s done is done. If you find yourself regularly feeling uncomfortable with this guy’s relationship with his ex wife, that’s something to seriously consider. His ex will always be a part of his life since they have a child. She’s not going to go away. You have to decide of you can live with these types of situations & how they make decisions as parents.