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August 31, 2021 at 9:04 am #913601Christie
Hi there…new here…
Let me get to the point….be and my bf have been seeing each other for about 3 months. he has proposed but recently got divorced from his wife this month…was finalized last week…
We went on vacation this past week in Florida…we went to 3 places in Florida but we went to Panama city beach where he and his ex wife got married….went to the same places he and his ex wife visited while they were there…I feel some kind of way about this.
Would this weird out anyone else if they were in my shoes?
August 31, 2021 at 9:39 am #913606Ewa
hang on. 3 months and he proposed ? I think I would worry more about that than were he actually took you…
August 31, 2021 at 9:39 am #913607Liz Lemon
Whoa, there are multiple red flags here. I don’t think visiting the beach is the main problem.
– you’ve only been dating 3 months but he has already proposed
– his divorce was just finalized (!), which means…
– he was married but in divorce proceedings when you started dating.THAT is the stuff you should feel weird about! Yes, it’s odd that he took you everywhere he took his ex-wife, but it’s too soon for him to be rushing into a relationship (not to mention a marriage!) He has not processed or dealt with the emotional fallout from his marriage ending. People need time to be single after a divorce (like, a year or two, minimum) in order to truly get over it. At this point he’s probably just mentally replaced his ex-wife with you- is that what you really want? Not to mention, you don’t even know each other after 3 months of dating! You barely know this guy, why are you rushing into marriage with a man who literally just got divorced?
August 31, 2021 at 10:06 am #913622Christie
I got the impression that he has moved on, especially since he replaced her with me. But then we go to all these places that he took her when they got MARRIED. THAT started to bother me but then it makes me wonder, maybe be wanted new memories in Panama city beach with me instead of it being the place reminding him of marrying her? It started to make me feel like he’s not over her?
Another red flag, is that I was helping him at his business that he owns and a girl he was involved with some years ago came in and they were talking… alot…I felt bothered by that because I saw in his phone that she messages him on fb ” NVM I see you have a girlfriend” but there were no messages before or after that and then he sends her a text saying ” I was just thinking about you” why is he even messaging her that??? He told me his reasoning but I don’t know if I buy it.
August 31, 2021 at 10:27 am #913629Deidra
Whoa!
Well I’d for sure be weirded out by ALL of it.
SOOOO many questions I have.
You still don’t really know this guy.
Why are you going through his phone?
I sense some mistrust…does it start with the fact that he was still married when you 2 started dating and when he proposed to you? I’d find that odd that he would propose while the ink wasn’t even dry on the marriage to ex wife. And it was JUST FINALIZED? WOW….he’s moving fast…too fast ..August 31, 2021 at 5:28 pm #913746Maddie
“I got the impression that he has moved on, especially since he replaced her with me.”
Replacing someone, filling the hole, is the opposite of moving on. A healthy relationship, you see the other person for who they really are not just what that can do for you and how they make you feel. What you’re describing is much closer to rebound behavior, which also matches why he recreated his memories with his ex with you.
August 31, 2021 at 5:32 pm #913750ANM StaffKeymasterChristie, I don’t understand why you replied to yourself as “Deidra” in this same thread.
It’s really disrespectful of this community to be disingenuous like that. Please don’t post in this forum.
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