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Georgie
I have been talking to a guy for a few months now just casually as he works in a bar I go to. 2 weeks ago we got drunk and I ended up sleeping with him. He then asked me for a casual ice cream date a couple of days later and ever since I have been sleeping with him. Apart from the ice cream there is no mention of dates except tonight he asked me to his house for a movie night. I’m not an idiot and I’m guessing he just wants to sleep with me but I guess I still need to hear from him what his intentions are. I know it’s early days and I don’t want to pressure him but I would like to know WHERE he’s head is at so I can make a decision that suits me. Is it too early to ask this?
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What do you want it to be? I think you know the answer already: this is casual without even being sexual exclusive. If you can handle casual without wanting more, its fine. But youre not on a path to relatlonship. I do think a talk is fine like: i wasnt expecting to see you more after the first night. But now that we do, how do you view this?
You will get an answerLane
His small head is where his “heads at.” When a man set’s up booty calls then you know what his intentions are as its so clear to us looking at it from the outside but unfortunately your “oxytocin” (aka love hormone) levels are keeping you in a state of fog which is why you’re unable to see his intentions are for sex only.
Most women can’t have sex and not get attached. Women during and after sex secrete the same hormones as they do when giving birth to a newborn that bonds them to her—its very powerful stuff! Men don’t experience this at all! In fact their hormones, especially testosterone are depleted during and after sex to the point they feel compelled to ‘get away’ so they can get their hormone levels back to normal.
This is why MEN can have sex with a different woman every night of the week and never get attached or catch feelings for her. Understanding the fundamental differences between men and women when it comes to sex will hopefully help to keep your head out of the fog as men love sex and will take it if offered to them on silver platter without wanting anything but temporary sex and companionship. Once they get a whiff you want something more than just sex, he will suddenly fade or go poof altogether! I would always be prepared for that event.
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