We broke up …why did he do it?

He was purposely making me jealous.
Telling me how women were texting him etc
I told him to stop telling me and it blew up from there.

He was texting these girls but told me as friends.
He didn’t hide it ..but kept telling me they wanted more than friendship.
Obviously I wasn’t comfortable with him continuing talking to them when he knew they wanted more,out of respect for me,I told him he shouldn’t be talking to them.
He said I was trying to control him.

In a nutshell, he lost all respect for you. When you engage in heated arguments and/or say things in the heat of the moment, your words can cut like a knife and if you cut or go too deep with them, its impossible for a man to recover it, they are ingrained in their brain to the point they can’t be wiped out or erased. Men can be white elephants when it comes to this, where even a innocuous statement can cut them so deep they are unable to recover from it. I said something to a guy friend that he still brings up THREE YEARS LATER to a mutual friend, and I’m like seriously, let it go dude, I was just being sarcastic and didn’t mean it literally but he refuses to let it go.

The one thing that is high on a man’s list of needs is RESPECT. If you say or do something that they deem so highly disrespectful to them, they can and will cut you out of their life forever. This is why you need to be very careful in how you state something to a man, whether its platonic or romantic; whereas if they feel so disrespected by something you say or do, they can easily sever you from their life.

You need to learn how not to fight dirty even when a man is acting like a jerk. For instance my BF was being a jerk over my driving in a city I had never driven in, with a rental car I had never driven before, so of course I was at driving disadvantage. He sucks as a passenger, and knowing this, I asked if he wanted to drive but he said no, you go ahead and drive so I did. In the three plus years we’ve been together I had never seen him get so riled up before where I tried to ignore it until I no longer could. In a firm but calm voice I told him “I am not going to kill us. I am trying to navigate the best I can in a city I have never driven before where the streets are confusing so either help me get to where we need to go or be quiet and let me figure it out because you are not being helpful to me right now.” What did he do? He calmed down, helped me to navigate and even apologized for being a jerk lol.

What I’m trying to say is there are better ways to communicate without having to get in the mud or be disrespectful even if they aren’t behaving or acting nicely to you. The best method when you reach the point you risk saying something mean or disrespectful is your cue to “take a time out.” Best to remove yourself and allow the emotions to cool down until the both of you are in a position to calmly articulate [communicate] and listen [look up “active listening”] to what each of you has to say without tearing each other down. This is a hard life lesson and a teaching moment to seek out and develop better methods to diffuse a tense situation before it escalates to the point of no return; OR keep making the same mistakes and going through more breakups.

Hello everybody… he was texting other women… and this is her fault? Not only was he texting them, he was telling her they wanted more than friendship from him. Again, this is her fault? Before any harsh words may have been said, he was acting like a next level d bag. He was cheating, period. Please stop with the victim blaming.
OP, you are much better off without him, he sounds manipulative and abusive.