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Amy S.
Andrea
I have had this happen a few times and am just wondering if I am doing something wrong. A guy will ask me out a week or so before the time. When the day approaches the date never happens. I’m still talking to the person but he never brings it up. A few of them have said to me that I didn’t say anything so he didn’t think we were still on. Really? I said yes that I could go right away. Why should I have to ask him if we were still going and what the details are. He asked me right? Shouldn’t he be the one to check in with me? Too me it displays a lack of interest. idk
Stefanie
Andrea, I agree with you. And my experience is the same. A decent gentleman will call or email you to confirm.
Andrea
Thank you Stefanie. Sometimes I just feel like I’m doing everything wrong.
Lane
Yup. Don’t allow men to push a date past 5 days. The only way I would give a man a bye on this is if he lived over an hour away and only has weekends off. Personally I prefer a quick cup of coffee (or drink) so you don’t spend too much time with someone you pretty much know within 5 – 10 minutes you never want to see again.
if the intro goes well, then you can schedule a proper date with little communication in-between so to keep the mystery and intrigue up…less is more :-)
Stefanie
I don’t know how old you are but I would be surprised if these are men over 35 doing this.
Andrea
Yes Stefanie they are all older than 35. The first few were 43 and 44 and the last one was 39.
Liz
Just had that happen to me tonite. Met a guy online. He asked me if I would meet him for drinks tonite. I said sure. We agreed on a time and place. Then today, no word from him. I texted him mid afternoon and asked him if we were still on for drinks and no response. Very rude and inconsiderate. The man is 50 years old. Well, he will not be getting another chance with me.
tallady
Wow, I guess I am lucky. I do not check in and if a time and place set, I go. Never had the issues unless he was not interested. What ridiculousness!if no time and place, it just fades…
Stefanie
Ohhhhh. These guys are online. That’s entirely different. Then age won’t matter.
Andrea
It shouldn’t matter if they are online or not. Obviously a lot of people meet up online and form great relationships. I think the key is to not let them play with you. I really don’t think that we, the women, should have to “check in” If they ask us and really want to go, they should confirm.
Stefanie
Right on Andrea.
Lagirl
any man truly interested in my experience doesn’t flake on you. It’s a measure of his interest.
Kez
If he asked you out on a specific date for or lunch he should phone you and confirm. I usually delete the guys number just incase I am tempted to text him first. If he doesn’t text you that day then as painful as it is you have to forget about him and move on.
Amy S
Oh its an online thing for sure this problem. I think theres so many guys online that have no intentions of actually going on a date. The timewasters and daytime users I call them. They will say coffee tomorrow then you hear nothing then a couple of days later they will message you again with something like how are you ? as if nothing has happened. I just ignore them at that stage. So many of them its mind boggling and really annoying actually. x
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