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Juul
For 3 months I am dating a very lovely guy. Due to me losing a parent very suddenly and willing to help he already proposed to go on a get away together but also I will for the first time meet one sibling of him.
But I discovered now I got it wrong, and it’s not the male sibling but the female trans one (in transition) he told me about early on. I am completely tolerant, everyone does whatever wants from his/her body but i had imagined now for weeks that it was the other sibling I would meet, mixing the different siblings who are not very far apart in age and I knew no name either. just “brother” for both
I am happy to discover it before I do any kind of (unwanted) surprised face when we meet, but I saw that completely randomly from social media of my date.
My date either thinks I remember, or I dont know actually, but I find it weird to ask again to let him know I realised.
It is just weird in the sense that I imagine now a guy for weeks and after all, it will be like my date’s sister analyzing me… at least my conception of male vs female goes that way, it changes the dynamicsHow would you best approach the topic to let your date know that you realised it, but not in a rude way? We kinda share everything but I am not familiar with that topic ( i dont have any close trans around me) so I am not sure how to approach it because i dont know how my date approaches it, although he seems to love all his siblings anyhow..
thanks!
Ewa
I read it like 4 times and I am still confused , what are you worried about? That you will mix a man with a woman?
I have met trans people before and trust me you will know if they are male of female. If not it is ok to ask, hey listen don’t take it the wrong way but would you mind telling me more about your sibling transition .
I worked with trans people before and they were usually very open about their transition but it is also very easy to be confused when you work with a female and then the next week she is a man. But for you it shouldn’t be a problem.Raven
Tell your date what you’ve told us…
When you meet, be kind & open.
Juul
I think I just needed some time for my brain to accept that I wont be spending 5 days with 2 heterosexual males but 1 male and 1 female trans, but I changed the schema I had in my head I suppose
Now I am more annoyed because my single parent who is alive does not ask me details of my get away so it’s very hard for me to say i will be travelling with a potential someone
I am in my thirties, but i had never presented anyone to my parents and now I lost one parent who was the most curious of my lifeMy remaining parent is apparently finding a blurry “I am going with someone I know from here” OK – is that even normal not to ask your daughter about her friends or dating life? (assuming you trust her, okay..)
It’s my dad. My mom used to ask me for anything, but he always barely did. But now that she is gone, I find it embarrassing that he doesnt ask. Even he did not ask for the location, I only gave a very rough approximateHow do you suggest your dad (whom you dont see often) that you may be seeing someone??? could i say he is a friend, except that we met via a dating app..
it’s just so much harder because he does not ask me anythingRaven
I’m confused, why do you need to tell your dad?
Juul
answer: I am not sure. I think I feel bad of not saying these things for some unknown reason. I feel bad of ‘hiding’ something
I think my deep thought is: if something happens he does not even know where I am
and this I find weirdwhen is it reasonable to tell your parents you are dating someone?
Raven
Make sure you tell your (girl)friends when you go out & where you’re going until your date has earned your trust…
I’m sorry about your mom. Your Dad must be grieving too 😥
He’s not going to suddenly change being interested if he wasn’t before. Sounds like you had a great relationship with your Mom. You’ll want to give him time while at the same time, forge a relationship with him…
You’ve nothing to be embarrassed about.
Have fun meeting your BF Family…
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