He Bailed On Our Trip and Lied

He claims we are 100% exclusive and he is not seeing anyone else. We have been together for 7 months.

He invited me to go to Austria with him for a meeting relevant to our interests, which is actually important for his line of work. I accepted the offer, and we made plans. He was talking about it every time I saw him.

About 5 weeks ago, I noticed on Facebook that he commented on another woman’s picture, writing something about how they should “really travel together ;)”. She wrote something really suggestive back.

I mentioned it to him, and he right away turned the blame on me and said “You’re a hypocrite. I bet you’re also seeing other men”.

We didn’t talk for a few days, and then we saw each other again and worked it out. I decided to give him another chance even though I thought it was a bad idea.

I noticed that about 3 weeks ago, he stopped talking about the trip to Austria completely. I brought it up casually, asking what the plans were and if WE were still going. He seemed kind of awkward about it, as if I caught him off guard, and said “yes *I* am still going”. I asked if he still wants me to go too, and he said that he did. He told me he would send me the details for the plane tickets.

He never sent me the information, so I asked again. He again asked if I still wanted to go and said he’d send the information. He didn’t.

He was quite busy at the time, so I let it go and figured he’d get back to me but he didn’t. I gave him almost two weeks and heard from him frequently, but he said nothing about the trip.

Two days ago I sent him a text, and I wrote “Is Austria still happening? Please let me know either way.” I purposefully said “either way” to give him an easy exit to give me an excuse. He took over a day to reply, and I got this “Sorry, the plans have changed. It’s off. I got a call today about an election work job and of course the training session is next weekend. Can I see you Saturday?”

The job is to run the polls for one day during our election.

There are a few reasons this cannot be true:

1. The Austria meeting is CRUCIAL for him, and way more important than a one-day position.

2. He never mentioned applying for such a job before and hasn’t done it in many years. Why would they just “call” him?

3. The “training session” is on Thanksgiving weekend (Canada). That doesn’t make much sense.

4. He is notoriously infamous in our city for his strong political views and for being a political activist. The man can hardly go down the street without someone being angry he is present. There is NO WAY they would allow him to run anything political or call him up to do so. They consistently deny him entry to events and deny his right to express his views. He is in the news constantly and his name is everywhere.

5. It’s way too convenient that he just never mentioned it again, seemed uncomfortable when I asked, never sent flight information, and then just says “today I got a call.”

What I think happened is that he invited someone to Austria in the small period of a few days that he was angry at me. Or maybe he is just mad I mentioned the Facebook comment and decided he did not want me to go. Either way, he left me hanging until *I* kept bugging him and finally gave him an exit. I actually don’t think he was ever going to say anything until the night before the day we were supposed to leave. Or, maybe he was just going to never say anything at all.

I find this so rude and despicable. I did not buy my plane ticket because I did not have the information, but what if I had? What if I had taken time off work? He has been so inconsiderate and doesn’t even seem to think he has.

I had a few ideas in mind:

1. Just ghost him (not a thing I like to do but his behaviour is terrible)

2. Tell him I’m fine with going on my own to the Austria meeting anyway and see how he reacts – if he seems uncomfortable or unsure, then I can assume it is because he is going and wouldn’t want me to see him there. (I could also just text this, not sure if it is better to do it in person or text it).

3. Tell him I know it’s bulls**t and cut ties. He will probably backpedal and throw a tantrum.

I have not replied at all yet.