Close guy friend not replying out of the blue

In addition, E has kept reassuring me that he is ok with the investment losses multiple times. He even went for a short trip after that and still talks like normal. His investment losses was about a month ago and he said he has gotten over it.

My gut response is: It’s been a couple of weeks. I’m sure he’ll get in touch eventually. I don’t think you have to assume this is the “death of the friendship”. He may very well have pressures going on his life that you’re not aware of. I agree with what Anon is saying that you seem more invested in this situation beyond just brother/friendship.

Having said that, are you sure he’s OK? You said your last text to him went unread. Is he active on social media? I mean, it’s unlikely but not impossible that he’s in a hospital somewhere, I suppose. But more likely he’s dealing with person stuff and will get back to you when he’s got time.

When you say MIA is he just not talking to you only? Is his socials active? Do you know anyone that knows him you can ask about or anyone that may have seen him during those weeks?

If no this is worrying. He is literally a missing person if 72hrs has gone by and no one has heard from him.

Just check if you can find out if he’s okay through someone else. If he is alive and well, then there must be a reason for his silence and it doesn’t necessarily have to be personal to you.

Hi All,

Appreciate all the kind input! Thank you so much!
Yes, he is still alive as I can still see his last seen which is still today. If it has been days since he last online, I will definitely feel off and will phone him. I try not to phone anybody unless necessary as I feel the other parties may not like it and find it intrusive, esp if they do not want to talk at the moment.

As for did he reply to other people other than me, I am afraid I can’t tell as we do not have mutual friend unfortunately. We met through an external learning course.

So I guess I can only wait for him to rely when he he feels like and ready to? I am not sure why do he not at least give me a heads-up or stuff like this. I do not have close friends that MIA before so this is relatively new to me.

A person dealing with something stressful won’t always tell you in advance that they will be out of contact. It just happens. I have a friend (female) who is like this. She has a lot of personal drama and sometimes I don’t hear from her for weeks or even a month. Then she’ll get in touch and we’ll catch up. It’s not personal against me, she’s just juggling a lot of things and this is how she handles it.

You say he has a partner, so maybe he’s having relationship problems– broke up with his girlfriend– is talking to a new woman he’s romantically interested in– who knows.

I think you are overthinking this. You know he’s online, so he’s obviously focused on something else. He’s gone MIA before so it’s not unprecedented. Just relax and focus on other things, and wait for him to get in touch.

Hi Raven,

Years back, I had a female colleague (not very close though) who had a disappearing act too. I was about to call her after a few days as I was worried for her too when she suddenly pops out and she said the past few days she was just on an urgent short trip.

As for my close girlfriends, they didn’t MIA before tbh but if they do, I definitely will be anxious too.

I think you should just call and speak with him. Or let him revert. Nothing else that u can do.. smtms when people go through some personal issues they just withdraw. I do the same smtms.