Burnt out

**Sorry posted this under an older thread by mistake, reposting now**

Anyone have advice for someone who is at a dating crossroads?

A guy broke up with me about two months ago, after four months together. I am still having trouble accepting and letting go. I’ve been trying to do the work on myself of healing and letting go and moving on and accepting it is over but I’m still sad. I think about him and wonder all the usual stuff, what he’s doing, does he miss me, why did things have to turn out like this. I’m trying to talk to other guys and go on dating apps but I start crying when I scroll these pages of men. I feel burnt out by it. I don’t want to start over, but I want to find love. I’m not getting any younger and feel like time is running out for me to find someone but my heart and mind is just not in this. I don’t feel interested in any of them or want to respond to anyone who matches with me. And I feel like maybe I’m passing by someone great but I don’t care at this moment. I’m so torn.

What should I do? How do I stop comparing new guys to the old guy? How do I knock my ex off this pedestal I have placed him on? If he was able to break my heart and not want to be with me that should be enough for me to forget him an move on. But a part of me just can’t let go. I can’t figure out why I’m still clinging to my ex’s memory. Hope he’ll come back? I get annoyed at myself that I’m not over him yet and still sad about this. The relationship wasn’t that long so what is my problem?

How do you start over and let go and move on with an open heart and mind? Stop feeling bad and sorry for myself and like because I wasn’t enough for my ex will I be enough for anyone?