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Alison
In your experience, after a girl completely rejects a guy once she finds out that he’s a terrible person – after he openly admitted to her that he enjoys hurting people, ruining relationships, but he wanted to be with her – , now she wants nothing to do with him, told him that she would never accept a vicious person like him and he later blocks her. Would you say blocking means the other person actually got affected by the words or would you think it’s worse for them to still orbit you like they didn’t care enough to delete you and still keep you around?
Raven
Why are you concerned that you’ve been blocked by a scum bag? You should have blocked him first.
Nellie
The trash took itself out.
Maddie
I don’t think it means either of those things. You’re not going to change him because he likely doesn’t believe he’s awful or he wouldn’t be okay with doing those things. He’ll justify himself, and it sounds like in his mind you’re now the problem not him, so you’re blocked so that he can stay unaffected. And yes, getting blocked is better than him having zero respect for you, your boundaries, your desires, and your personal space, which may be expressed through orbiting or stalking or trying to wear you down or whatever.
Why are you questioning yourself about this? Bad news people like that rarely change, and if they do change, they change for themselves not for others.
Mary
I think you should block him as well to ensure you filter him out of your life.
Eric CharlesKeymasterThis is how people waste years of their life in a toxic dynamic.
They look at the situation rationally and determine: This person is a bad fit for me.
Then the person does something to “reject” them.
They react and feel like they lost the upper hand in some kind of ongoing battle and decide they need to plot some kind of response.
How much more time do you want to waste participating in this dynamic?
Padmini
Hi, Alison,
I find that it has all unravelled Optimally for YOU! Firstly, it is wonderful that you have sensibly Called-Out the Guy and Banished hm from your Life! Secondly, it is great that the Guy has Blocked you; as it goes-to-show that he has taken your Boundaries seriously and is thus Respecting you.
There was a Time when I had put my foot down with a Prospect’s inappropriateness and so he tried to Gas-Light me and shut me out and told me to go waste somebody else’s time. A part of me was hurt that it could not work-out with him since I was moved by his charm; although I ultimately knew that he was in no way a Decent Guy and that it was working-out for the Best.
That part of me continued to look at his Dating-Profile. He finally called me out on looking at his Dating-Profile. I then ultimately was happy to get a Call from the Universe–even from the Mouth-Piece of that Creep–that I should move on once-and-for-al!
So good for you! The Universe is working-out Positively in your Direction! I also send you Love and Magic!
Cheers,
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