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    Haley

    Hello! I recently have slowly been putting myself back out there. I am 21 in college. 7 months ago out of bad relationship. Now just starting to feel okay with it dating again and mingling for past month or so. On Friday night I went to a party after a long day not expecting anything I merely wanted to dance and have a good time. I was sober the whole night. I wanted (for myself) to go up to a guy I found attractive and just tell him I think he is cute. I was not expecting anything to occur whatsoever. I just wanted to soberly give a genuine compliment and have confidence. I tapped a cute guy on the shoulder and told him I thought he was very cute. He said thank you and I was too. He was being polite I felt like and I said “ok! That’s all I wanted to say”. He then stuck by me and struck up conversation with my friend and I. Slowly, but his actions were seeming he was interested. He was hard to read. Like I said, not expecting any of this. When crowd got big he would try to find me and kept dancing around us. It was nice. We soon went to a more quieter space, and he left to use the restroom. I ended up in the bathroom line too, but on a different level. A girl in line noticed I was talking to him and told me that she is a good friend of his and girls always misconstrue when he is being nice as flirty. I agreed that he is kind of hard to crack. Still couldn’t tell if he was sober or drunk out of his mind. While we were dancing together there was some solid eye contact and somewhat flirtatious gestures. But still couldn’t fully guess it. Fast forward he comes back to find me and we talk then says let’s sit down. We find a nice spot. Talk for 40 mins. My hands were freezing for some reason and he held them the whole time to warm them up. And after three awkward pauses, of us just laughing and staring at each other (he’s 19, bit young but it’s okay) he finally kisses me, kind of aggressively. We make out a bit and I was insanely overdue for this. I did not expect it to work in my favor! Convo was good. Kissing was good. It got late though and the people at the house party kicked everyone out politely. We exchanged phone numbers and he said he would text me a couple of times. Those are just words. I know. That isn’t the point of this. Two days later I saw him on the street while walking to the library with my friend and he was with his. I waved and said hi, and he perked up immediately and smiled and said hi how are you and I said good while beaming, and we followed eye contact for awhile walking past each other. I was giddy like I was 13 with a school girl crush. Even my friend said that he perked up and looked like he was about to stop me to pull me aside. I am not going to text him first. He can text me. That is so silly if I text him first. All my friends are telling me to do it but I know it will mean nothing unless he takes the first text. My point of all of this is that I feel good to put myself out there like that, having no idea it would have worked! Now if he texts me great, if he doesn’t. I will live!

    #776324 Reply
    Better off single

    Kudos to you for stepping out of your comfort zone.

    #776327 Reply
    kaye

    I think absolutely since you made the first step in going up and talking to him and telling him he was cute, it’s up to him to take the next step and text you!! Besides he took your number and said he would text you so let’s see if he follows through. If you listen to your friends and text first he may respond but you won’t know if he has any genuine interest in getting to know you first or not. And I feel like his friend already warned you “girls always misconstrue when he is being nice as flirty.” That means a lot of girls have been disappointed because they think he is interested in them when he’s not. If you sit back and make him show his interest or lack of, you won’t be one of “those girls”.

    #776328 Reply
    Daisy

    Good for you for going up to him! I wouldn’t get too caught up in whether he texts you back or not. Regardless, it’s a nice little confidence booster. I think that might be one of my biggest regrets, not being more outgoing at that time in my life. Really, there was nothing to lose! You’re in college, such an amazing time to meet new people. So if this one doesn’t work out, there are tons of other new people to meet!

    #776348 Reply
    Sensy

    Give the guy the chase. They are hunters.

    #776355 Reply
    Haley

    thanks all for the replies and kudos. Trying not to think about it, and happy I’m stepping foot into good direction regarding all of this (in years prior I would text the dude and it would never go anywhere) so really standing my ground! It really happens when you least expect it, and moving on with life no matter what happens!

    #776388 Reply
    Better off single

    Nice. It feels pretty great when you stop over thinking, keeping your insecurities in a cage, going with the flow knowing no matter what happens you’re going to be ok, doesn’t it?

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