Examining me in Bed?

“i feel like he´s examining my body/down there aswell, its not super obvious but i can tell he´s looking for something?”

Buried treasure maybe?

And, since I’m not busy tonight, and I’m old and seen a lot of very experienced men, I would guess he’s not examining, he’s memorizing. Yuck. This is very explicit, I apologize, memorizing to masturbate later, because that kind of age difference is, to me, perverted.

Or, obviously, he’s trying to use the visual to perform well.

Thanks for quick replies ladies.

Yes, i am 30 and this guy is 47. When i met him 3 years ago, he had a gf, so we just progressed by dating, going out for dinners etc. He´s very known person in my profession and that´s how we met.

So, he has had alot more sexual experience than me, but somehow noone of his relationships worked out. He had 2 girlfriends who cheated on him/also hit him but this was like 3 years ago and 10 years ago. He dosen´t talk much about his relationship baggage.

Again, he´s very vain, looks matters to him , and he could be a narcissist too? I am not sure yet… but what i´ve noticed is how he really looks me up and down, and its all about me pleasing him, and he comes quick and that´s it.

Also last time, he said something really freaky, he was struggling to “feel” anything” and got really wined up , i felt how tense he was, and when he busted , he just shouted “i dont like you” when you do this to me? I was like what are you talking about? I feel so much pressure? hmmmm … that was like wow okay??

“He also looked down there as if looking for something. Maybe diseases? ”
I feel he is trying to figure out if i am tight enough or something… but wow, i dont know… what he really expects from me. He said he wants kids and marriage etc, but who knows if he is taking viagara? is there anyway i can find out, or do i need to ask him?? His d gets soft inside of me, and its like i am to blame for that….? so he just searches for things on my body, but mainly down there.. .i feel freaked out… and maybe need to tell him, we need to stop seeing each other.

thanks again.

Your initial post sounds as though he was just trying to be a good lover and attentive to your needs.

Your second post saying “I dislike you” immediately following post-coital though is alarming.

Physical attraction (or taking care of one’s own appearance) matter to a lot of people. That doesn’t necessarily make them a “narcissist”.

Unless you feel that you’ve exhausted getting to the route cause, it’s probably better that you work through your sexual differences with him though.

Thanks for all

I am very concerned how to even break it off. He doesn’t take rejection easiy plus i can’t have sex with him on his terms. I feel i am not good enough when he’s examining me. If he doesn’t come it’s my fault somehow? But he always does- quick too.

He sounds psycho and no offense you sound off too. Why even ask this question to a bunch of strangers? He won’t please you but accepts BJ’s. Enough said. Figure it out for yourself.

How to break it off?

Next time he calls, tell him ‘no’ & that you won’t be seeing him again & mean it…

Oh, no, no. My ex husband is 48 and he is a major fornicator with no problem, he is all about sex every night. We be friends, so he tells me, plus, I know him. No way , I repeat, no way is 47 too old to get major hard and perform. You are just making excuses.

“and i just dont think its ok for me to do all the work”

It doesn’t sound like you’ve been dating all that long for either to be in a position of “doing all the work”. Maybe you both need to slow down a bit.