Boyfriends heading to Ibiza should I be worried?

yes, check yourself before you wreck yourself. Your fears are unfounded unless he is a cheater, and that is the case if he is in Ibiza or in the grocery store.

You should be extra nice to yourself, journal on your fears, ask yourself what is lovingly taking care of yourself and meditate.

Hey girli! Take a breath first, sit back and let’s think about this objectively. Would you cheat if you were on vacation? The answer is probably no. And that’s not because your a woman (believe me women cheat too), but its because you have a sound moral compass, respect for your relationship and love for your man. I know that men can and do cheat. I wasn’t born yesterday. And I’ve also had difficultly giving the benefit of the doubt to new boyfriends after I’ve been so terribly wronged in the past. But I think you know deep down if you have a man that is a good, loves you and values your relationship. If you think he does, than realize its you and not him causing these thoughts to occur and try the best you can to own that. It’s you, not him. On the other hand, if you have doubts that he is a man of integrity than I ask- what are you still doing with him? Really think about that. Because if your doubt comes from your disbelief in him.. then why waste your time? Move on to someone that is worth while. Its hard to do but definitely worth it in the long run. So decide, is it you or him? Good luck!

Remember these are your issues not his. If he has done nothing to make you think he would cheat on you, let this go.

Keep in mind a man can cheat on you in the same city you live in, vacations are not some light bulb in a man’s head to cheat.

Relax and enjoy this time away to catch up on some things you have not had a chance to.

Whenever I had a boyfriend go away on a trip, I found this as a way to recharge from the relationship and actually miss him.

A man wants a woman who can trust him and not pester him when he has time away with the boys.

He actually just called me out of the blue about 15 minutes ago saying “I know your overthinking this holiday, I’m not the type of guy I don’t want to ruin our relationship, so don’t be silly and enjoy your day, I’ll contact you when I’m there” it reassures me when he keeps in contact like that. I guess you guys are right it is me that I have to work on! I have to find me outside of this relationship I guess do things for me and keep busy and recharge. Thank you again for listening you guys are amazing

That’s great he called. Sounds like a nice guy. But I have to caution you on your response to his calling. I think its important not to get into the daily dopamine high. I remember having a relationship where my emotions and stance on the relationship were directly related to how he bahaved that day- what he said and did. If he was attentive and loving, i was happy. If he was busy and less affectionate, i felt something was off. Know how you feel before you receive reassurance is the best way to live. Although difficult to do.

My real question is when are you going on vacation with the girls? Or why are you not going there as well with the girls? Does not have to be the same days or hotels or anything…

I think if lots of beautiful women are there then your name is being called….

Thanks guys on responding so quick! Yeah I’m at ease now not really been thinking about it! He has a better job than I do so if I could afford it if be away with the girls on a holiday! lol but right now I have money aside as I’m meeting his parents in July time! The count down begins haha!