Why hasn't he replied? Dating 6 weeks.

Dating is not for the faint hearted these days. Most adults, men or women, don’t use their words and communicate how they feel -most times they just peace out if they’ve changed their minds. I agree with the sentiment that men don’t OWE you an explanation if they don’t want to continue. You are not his girlfriend. He did not ask you to be before he disappeared. But it would be nice if someone told you instead of just going quiet. (Hell – I only went on two dates recently with a guy, but he was contacting me daily and wanted to a plan a third date – I took the initiative and let him know I didn’t think we were a good fit and wished him luck…) But anyway

The point here is – if a man is interested long term you will ALWAYS know it. But in the beginning you have to let them initiate most texts, calls and dates until they make it exclusive. If you don’t, many men will ‘go along’ with the relationship but they are not steering it anywhere.

But also at the end of the day – you could have done every single thing “right”, such as letting him contact you 90 percent of time, letting him initiate dates 100 percent of the time, and let him show his interest – and then he STILL could have dropped off. Google the stages men fall in love. Don’t ever double text. He would be in contact if he wanted to be. Teach heart to not be hurt deeply by a dude not your boyfriend (disappointed sure). But retain your dignity and let the man come to you.

Have you been intimate with him? If yes did it happen just recently ?

So he replied after 24 hours, saying he had a good week and asking how I am… no mention of what took him so long to reply. He’s been slow to reply before, but never this long.

I responded telling him similar to what you suggested @Tallspicy, and I didn’t ask any questions, he responded again with a decent length message a few minutes later so I have responded again but again not asked any questions. I’ll see what he says. He has always seemed keen before this and I thought as he’d taken the time to arrange a double date with his friends that meant he must see me as more than a fling. I know men can change though but I would like to continue things with this guy so don’t want to just give up completely, nor do I want to come on too strong through so I’ll wait to see if he initiates anything.

Did the 12 hours include when he was sleeping?! If so, he might just have not been in the mood to chat or busy! Men generally aren’t that into texting… they do it at the beginning because they have to really. Then when things settle they can often drop off. My boyfriend doesn’t text me every day and we are long distance. Its not really been a cause of stress to me but we met in real life rather than online so texting was never a massive feature- he’d text to check if he could call or to arrange something or send a meme/pic of something relevant to us.

Also he could be fading out. 10 dates is roughly 3 months and men start to think about whether they see a woman as long term around that time.

You handled it perfectly though. Just stay busy and mirror him x

So in the past, he was never big at messaging or calling to begin with and we would go a few days without talking sometimes, but he’d reply if I messaged him, and he would call or message to arrange dates too which we usually did once a week. This time its just been a bit longer and he’s never taken that long to reply before. I’ll just keep mirroring him but won’t initiate and see what happens.

Thanks for all the assistance to.