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T from NY.
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Devs
A little background..
We were together 7months including 3 months linng distance during the pandemic.. I am 27 he is 30.. we bickered before but it was in my last visit to his house he accused me of cheating out of nowhere and we had a massive blow up.. Tried to make it work after and I thought we did but few weeks later (Long-distance at this point) he dumped me when i got upset over him saying he feels he maybe better off with someone living closer helping with his kid..
Anyway, i twxted him for a week after the break up no response.. I unfriended him on facebook and deleted my instagram straight after the break up. He blocked me on facebook. I made a new insta account two weeks later and he followed me. I didn’t but watched few of his stories… He watched mine and then blocked me on there ..In a moment of weakness i messaged i missed him on whatsapp few days later and deleted the message. He called me and explained the blocking, that we are toxic for each other blah blah but that he will call me again after few weeks to see how am i and maybe meet for coffee when the pandemic is over.. he blocked me on whatsapp i messaged his business page sayig how upsetting it was he blocked me especially after trying to convice me he cares and blocked the messenger there myself!
Two days later scrolling through my whatsapp i saw he has unblocked me there.. i removed his number .. another two days pass and I noticed he has banned me of his business page which I don’t really ever interact with in any way.. I haven’t spoken to him at all.. I am not sure i want him back and at this point i just want to move on but I am very confused by this block unblock s*** especially when i am not reaching out. What motivated this behaviour?
Ss
I wouldn’t pay any more attention to being blocked and unblocked. We don’t know why he is doing it but it is all very immature and he sounds like a di*k so block, delete and say thank you NEXT!!!
Newbie
You are not sure you want this immature guy who likes a gf nanny, who is pushing your buttons back? Really? I cant say this friendly but you really need a higher bar in how people can treat you and hold people on to that. This guy is doormatting you if after all the blocking here and there is done, he asks you for a coffee and you say, Yes please
Lane
I agree, the two of you are toxic, dysfunctional and very immature to boot, especially given your ages.
Listen, not every couple is meant to be together. Oftentimes when one of the parties wants out of the relationship they intentionally start fights or accuse the other something false, such as cheating, etc. Yes its a poor way of dealing with an issue or problem but its also your cue to recognize it, when its happening, by dumping him first instead of escalating it.
In the future, behave like the adult and let the man-child run away like the immature babies they are knowing you can do way much better than that! :o)
Liz Lemon
I agree with the others. The relationship you describe is toxic and immature and not worth saving. You also only dated 7 months, 3 of which were long distance. So it was not a very long-term relationship. Not all relationships work out, in fact, most don’t. The ones that last are the exception. You and this guy are not meant to be together. Let him go. He sounds childish and ridiculous.
And yes as Newbie said, raise your standards, have some dignity! If a guy dumps you, blocks you and acts like a jerk, don’t chase him, don’t text him and don’t agree to a coffee date with him. Not only is this guy immature, but he told you he might be better off with a girlfriend who could help him more with his kid. Basically, he wants a girlfriend who can be a babysitter. Why would you want a guy like this?
Alice
I’m going to break this down for you…
1. He dumped you. Why are you reaching out to him in any shape or form? Reaching out to a guy after he dumped you, makes you look desperate and needy.
2. He blocked you because he said you two together are toxic. That was him being honest about how he feels and trying to create a boundary.
3. Messaging him on his business page is extreme and sorta stalker-ish, which he probably thinks too. Again, makes you look desperate and also shows you were ignoring his boundaries.
4. He probably unblocked you on WhatsApp since you went crazy and tried to connect with him on his business page, which he uses for professional reasons most likely. That is not the place to discuss personal matters. So he unblocked you from WhatsApp so you wont go through his business again to try to get to him. I would have banned you too from my business page.
5. Lets recap…He dumped you, has blocked you from various media platforms and communicated that you two are toxic for each other. You need to leave the guy alone and get some self-respect.
Raven
You say he’s 30?!
He’s acting like a 14 year old…Move on!
Wee
What motivates his behaviours of blocking and unblocking? I would say it is because he can’t make decision between get you off his life or keep you there in case of needs. And if you question why he think he may need you, I would like to address to this, too. He think he may need you because he is greedy and somewhat coward. Hence, that he needs you is not anything positive, it won’t lead to a serious relationship with you, so you’d be better without having him to need you. So are you clear of the motivation behind his action now?
His behaviors (block you, unblock you) is harmful to you, nothing good about it so don’t waste your valuable time thinking about it, or hoping it may mean anything nice.
Also, you only know him for 7 months, it is not that long for him to keep you around just because of goodwill, it is only for something he may want to take advantage of in future.T from NY
What we seek after signifies our own place of health and self love. Do not seek after something that does not bring you peace. When someone breaks up with you, then blocks you, that means go away. None of the other details matter. Leave the man be and get to the work of loving yourself better.
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