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Francisca
Okay so basically to summarize every down from my last post. I was with a guy who was very insecure, selfish, delusional and hadn’t had a lot of experience with sex/women.
I also haven’t had a lot of experience either. We were both each other’s 2nd. He dumped me and Im so hurt because it wasn’t real love, he basically just shoved me aside when I got vulnerable with him. I also felt very devalued by the whole thing. Even though I understand the situation, I’m still hurt and affected by it. I wish we left on respectful terms. I still wanted/want to be respected by him. I still want to reach out even though I blocked him from social media and deleted his number. It’s been 3 months. Should I reach out to him?
And how to just move on in peace with my full confidence back
Raven
This is what happens when you lower your standards…
Please learn to heed the red flags early on.
Melia
Hi Francisca,
Just my opinion, I think one of the ways that you can simultaneously live on without thinking much about how he thinks of you, plus at the same time be respected by him, is by 1) not reaching out to him, 2) unblocking him from social media, 3) live on with a respectable lifestyle and show it on social media (if he wants to know how you’re doing he’ll check your profile out and see actually how respectable, independent or strong you are [and that your vulnerable side is not a burden but a privilege that only ppl who are close and important to you get to experience]; if he didn’t try to check out your social media then he’s not interested in you so he does not deserve to be shown anything by you or receive your attention)
Melia
Lane
You need to change your mindset and not give a hoot what he thinks of you. Your value doesn’t come from another person, it comes from within yourself and if you are a kind, respectful and decent person then that’s all that matters and counts. The people who love and care for you see the *real you* and so there’s no reason to seek it from some dude you should never talk to or see again because he his values are much lower than yours are!
Be that strong, confident, don’t give a hoot lady when someone doesn’t give a hoot back. That’s the best mentality and mindset to have in life.
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